The Secrets on How to Get Him Back

how to get him backIf you are in the middle of a breakup, it’s a good bet that you are feeling lost, heartbroken, and completely out of control.  Unfortunately for women when we feel like we’ve lost control of something, we have a tendency to do some crazy things.

Things we would never do when we aren’t consumed by a mountain of negative emotions like heartbreak and loss.  Some women cut their losses and move on, but most of us obsess and overanalyze methods and means to win him back or make him miss you so that he comes crawling back.  Depending on what “tips” you used though, this could be counterproductive. 

Let’s discover the real secrets on how to get him back without looking like the overobsessed crazy girl he was once in love with.

Secret 1 – Get Busy with Other Things

Absence DOES make the heart grow fonder, so use that.  If you feel you two belong together, there is a sliver of a chance he feels the same way.  He did have feelings for you at one point, and maybe even still does, but you won’t find that out by “accidentally” driving by his house 32 times a day. 

Making yourself absent is a very effective way to get a guy back, because it reminds them that they actually have something to miss.  This one is actually more common sense than a secret, but women that are trying desperately to regain control of a relationship gone awry have a tendency to forget how to use common sense, making this a very effective secret if you want to know how to make him miss you.

Secret 2 – Live Your Life

Up your social quotient (but not too much).  The step two to this secret is to make sure he sees it.  When you have access to tools such as Facebook, this makes it even easier.  But you can do this without Facebook if you work in the same building, live in the same neighborhood, or have similar friends that are likely to run into each other. 

Make sure you go on with your life as if nothing happened, so that he can see how much fun you are having without him.  That’s right buddy, you snooze you lose and now YOU’ve moved on.  That doesn’t mean you need to date the football team while you are hoping he’s pining away, because that will only drive him away, it just means you should have fun. 

This tells a man that you don’t need or depend on him for your happiness, and that’s very attractive.  And yes, secretly he will be a little jealous too but he will never tell you that.  If you want to get your boyfriend back, you have to start playing the social game. 

Secret 3 – Look Fabulous

Look as fabulous as possible at all times, no matter what.  Again, repeat step two in secret 2 and bada bing.  Make sure he sees it. 

He is OBVIOUSLY attracted to you, or he wouldn’t have been your boyfriend in the first place.  And that’s the funny thing about relationships.  Even when they end, we don’t suddenly start thinking the other person is an ugly horse.  If you want to make him miss you, find ways to remind him how gorgeous you are. 

Even if he’s still bitter or upset over the breakup himself, he may not feel seduced just by looking at you, but if he sees you where other men can see you too, this secret has a powerful effect. 

To win him back, one important emotion to trigger is just a hint of jealousy.  If he runs into you dressed to the nines, on your way to your fabulous life, he’s DEFINITELY going to wonder what is UP with that.  And it WILL make your ex boyfriend miss you, even if the thought never crossed his mind before hand.

To get your boyfriend back, you have to do all of the things that helped you snag him to begin with.

Be yourself, live your life, and look fabulous the whole time.  The ante he has on other men that will also see you doing so is that he once had feeling for you.  Those secrets will make him miss you and help you know how to get him back. 

Now what are you doing still reading this, time to get your game on, girl!