How to get him back. This is what you want to know, right, this is why you are here?
If you are poised with the iPhone or smartphone while you read this, put it down. You’re not going to need that if you want to get him back. In fact, as far as he is concerned, you are not going to need that for a very long time. I can hear the “but’s…” already, and you’re going to have to talk to the hand on that one. If you truly want to know how to get him back, you are going to have to step outside the comfort zone.
You’re saying it anyway, aren’t you?
“But how am I going to get him back if I can’t text or email or call him after I read this?”
“But how is he going to know that I even WANT him back, if I don’t tell him? Again?”
Here’s the cold hard truth. He may never know. And if that’s the kind of guy he is, then you don’t want him back. But if the one but that you are saying is, “but we truly had a great connection and I really want to do everything I can to get him back. How do I do it?”
Well then, you have a shot. IF that connection was real. If it wasn’t, I can’t make that happen for you. And again, I repeat, IF that connection wasn’t REAL, then you don’t want him back. You want the guy where the connection IS real. Because that is what you and every woman deserves.
There is a period after every breakup that I refer to as the No Contact Zone. You may have heard me say it before. It is exactly what it sounds like. The No. Contact. Zone. If you want to know how to get him back, you have to stay true to this rule.
Put down the phone.
Stop looking at it wistfully, stop scrolling through your messages to see if you heard from him just in case, stop skimming through your contacts just to make sure he is still there. He is still there, and no you haven’t heard from him.
And you won’t if you keep bugging him. A breakup, a break, a time out, a separation, a cooling off, maybe even a divorce, whatever word the two of you have used, is exactly what it is. Yes, it is what it is. It is a break. He needs it. You need it. Use it.
See, the key to getting him back is making him miss you. That’s right, look at the name of our website again, and that’s the ticket right there. If you want to know how to get him back, the first thing you need to do is make him miss you.
Do YOU miss people when you get 20 messages from them in a 24 hour period? No. It’s impossible.
So like I said, if you want to get him back, you have to be VERY strict about this rule. I say, give it 30 days no less than that. You will hear others tell you two weeks max, but that isn’t enough time. Life is too busy and time flies too fast that two weeks is nothing for some people. 30 days will make him miss you.
ESPECIALLY if he is normally accustomed to hearing from you 20 times a day.
This goes back to the real connection. If you truly had a REAL connection with this man, guess what? You aren’t the only one that felt that. He is human. Even though he may have seemed a little unfeeling when the two of you called this space time, he is a human with feelings. If the connection was real, he felt it too.
But he is not going to miss you if you keep bugging him. So step away from the phone. The computer. And even the message in a bottle. The No Contact Zone is the most important step in making him miss you, and understanding how to get him back, and not just get him back, but back and more committed to you than ever.
That’s what you want, right?
If you really feel you still need to send that one message, send it to me. I don’t mind. And if it will take that itch off of you, then send me a note or drop a comment in, and that will scratch your itch. There’s no buts. Do not contact him for 30 days, IF you want him back. You can do it.