5 Dirty Little Relationship Secrets

“Can we talk?”

Thump.   That’s the sound you heard and the wallop you felt when those three little words were uttered.  (And not the three you had been hoping for.)

Each on hitting you like a ton of bricks, and followed with something like, “I think we need a little space.” Or, “I think we are better off as friends.”

Or even worse, the deepest surgical cut of them all, “It’s not you, it’s me. Really.”

What’s a girl to do?  Fret not oh fabulous one, you have options.  1. Find a tub of ice cream with all the bells and whistles, this one merits the aisle right past all the non-fat brands, or 2. Consider this just a relationship bump, and try to make him miss you and get your boyfriend back, stat.  Easier said than done, you say?  Let’s see about that.

There are plenty of gurus and guides out there that may help you out with this one, but if you really want to make your ex-boyfriend miss you, chances are you have to act fast.

To make your ex want you again, you have to figure out what his hot buttons are, and remember that hope is not lost.  He DID love you at one point, and those feelings don’t just die after three little words are uttered.  Tap into those by using some dirty little secrets that will make him miss you, and you’ve definitely got a shot.

5 Dirty Little Secrets to Get Him Back

1.  Stop talking about the problems that lead you here.  Who wants to talk about problems? Not fun. Not sexy.  Sexy is what got him to you, and sexy is what will bring him back.  We repeat, problems aren’t sexy.  Seducing a man is easy, but if you want to know how to seduce your ex boyfriend, stop reminding him of all of the things that brought him to those three little words.

2.  Get your game on.  No matter how long you were with him, you have to go back to those first days and weeks of the relationship where you brought your A game.  The game that made him sweat over you when you weren’t around, the one where you did everything right because you didn’t want to screw it up. Every time you saw him you looked, smelled, and even felt as fabulous as ever.  Bring that back.  And don’t be afraid to show a little lace.

3.  Speaking of lace….Invest in some new lingerie.  No you don’t know yet if he’s ever going to see it, but wearing it will make you feel great.  It will make you feel as beautiful as you are.  You will walk taller and straighter because you look and feel sexy as all get up.  When you feel sexy, it shows, and if you can strut past him with some new fancy things on, well, he’s certainly going to wonder why.  He may even ask “what’s with you?” So you tell him, “just bought some new lingerie for myself and I feel great, that’s all, thanks!”

4. Never. Stop. Smiling.  Yep, this is a toughie if you are mending a broken heart, but this is one of those times you need to fake it till you make it.  Those are the only three little words that you need to focus on right now.  Why?  Numerous studies have shown that people that smile are perceived as more attractive and more successful in life overall.  People want to be around people that are happy.  People want to be around people that are smiling more than they are not.  They are thought of as fun, and all around positive people.  Men are very attracted to positive, fun girls.  If you want to get your boyfriend back, you need to BE that girl!

5.  Now strut.  Those boots were made for walkin, weren’t they? None of the above tips will help you get your boyfriend back and they won’t make him miss you if he is unable to witness any of them. You need to figure out a way to make him notice you without clubbing him over the head with it (that reads, I am trying to get a guy back). Be subtle, be sexy, and make him see it all.

Are you ready, girl? OK, then start walkin’.

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The Secrets on How to Get Him Back

how to get him backIf you are in the middle of a breakup, it’s a good bet that you are feeling lost, heartbroken, and completely out of control.  Unfortunately for women when we feel like we’ve lost control of something, we have a tendency to do some crazy things.

Things we would never do when we aren’t consumed by a mountain of negative emotions like heartbreak and loss.  Some women cut their losses and move on, but most of us obsess and overanalyze methods and means to win him back or make him miss you so that he comes crawling back.  Depending on what “tips” you used though, this could be counterproductive. 

Let’s discover the real secrets on how to get him back without looking like the overobsessed crazy girl he was once in love with.

Secret 1 – Get Busy with Other Things

Absence DOES make the heart grow fonder, so use that.  If you feel you two belong together, there is a sliver of a chance he feels the same way.  He did have feelings for you at one point, and maybe even still does, but you won’t find that out by “accidentally” driving by his house 32 times a day. 

Making yourself absent is a very effective way to get a guy back, because it reminds them that they actually have something to miss.  This one is actually more common sense than a secret, but women that are trying desperately to regain control of a relationship gone awry have a tendency to forget how to use common sense, making this a very effective secret if you want to know how to make him miss you.

Secret 2 – Live Your Life

Up your social quotient (but not too much).  The step two to this secret is to make sure he sees it.  When you have access to tools such as Facebook, this makes it even easier.  But you can do this without Facebook if you work in the same building, live in the same neighborhood, or have similar friends that are likely to run into each other. 

Make sure you go on with your life as if nothing happened, so that he can see how much fun you are having without him.  That’s right buddy, you snooze you lose and now YOU’ve moved on.  That doesn’t mean you need to date the football team while you are hoping he’s pining away, because that will only drive him away, it just means you should have fun. 

This tells a man that you don’t need or depend on him for your happiness, and that’s very attractive.  And yes, secretly he will be a little jealous too but he will never tell you that.  If you want to get your boyfriend back, you have to start playing the social game. 

Secret 3 – Look Fabulous

Look as fabulous as possible at all times, no matter what.  Again, repeat step two in secret 2 and bada bing.  Make sure he sees it. 

He is OBVIOUSLY attracted to you, or he wouldn’t have been your boyfriend in the first place.  And that’s the funny thing about relationships.  Even when they end, we don’t suddenly start thinking the other person is an ugly horse.  If you want to make him miss you, find ways to remind him how gorgeous you are. 

Even if he’s still bitter or upset over the breakup himself, he may not feel seduced just by looking at you, but if he sees you where other men can see you too, this secret has a powerful effect. 

To win him back, one important emotion to trigger is just a hint of jealousy.  If he runs into you dressed to the nines, on your way to your fabulous life, he’s DEFINITELY going to wonder what is UP with that.  And it WILL make your ex boyfriend miss you, even if the thought never crossed his mind before hand.

To get your boyfriend back, you have to do all of the things that helped you snag him to begin with.

Be yourself, live your life, and look fabulous the whole time.  The ante he has on other men that will also see you doing so is that he once had feeling for you.  Those secrets will make him miss you and help you know how to get him back. 

Now what are you doing still reading this, time to get your game on, girl!