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Relationship Advice: How to Make Him Miss You When He’s Playing Facebook Games

March 18, 2018 By Christine

Oh boy. I’m not sure why, but relationships today have a lot more game playing in them than they used to. People are trying to make him miss you or get their boyfriend or girlfriend back in such nefarious ways today. It almost feels more like a “get back at my boyfriend or girlfriend” situation rather than a “get my boyfriend back” scenario, in many cases. And I’m not even referring back to the 1920’s or 1950’s.

In the 1990’s even, relationships were much easier to deal with than they are today. I do not know what the bigger reason for this is, but I do suspect that social media plays a big role in this. Check out our previous article on this, Facebook is not your diary. Social media is used for a lot of gameplaying and relationships, and today we have a reader that has a question about this.

While it is not to be used for game playing in relationships, or at least that’s not something that I recommend, social media can still be a useful tool when you want to make him miss you. Social media in many ways actually makes it very easy if you’re trying to find out how to get your boy friend back. And one of the reasons for that is a little concept known as “social proof.”

But this concept of social proof can really wreak havoc on relationships. And we have one of our readers today that is experiencing just this. This is a reader has a little bit of everything involved in her relationship troubles. We have some game plan going on, we have some cheating going on, and we also have some social media nonsense going on. Now if you are looking for ways to get your boyfriend back, or are trying to figure out how to get your husband back or how to get your ex back, social media game playing is one way to do this. Again, it’s not something I recommend. But it does happen.

But smarter way to go about this is to use social media as a tool to get closer, not farther apart. That’s what it’s for! So today we’re going to talk about how to use social media wisely when it comes to relationships, and to offer some relationship advice on what to do if you find yourself on the receiving end of some social media games. Let’s have a look at Sarah’s story.

We are in a long distance relationship, I’m 49 and he is 42. We see each other every two months and alternate who drives to who, we video chat daily sometimes more than once and he calls me to say goodnight every night for over a year. We laugh and have a great interaction I just don’t like that he follows strippers (local and non local) on his social media.

It’s the only thing we argue over and he stands firm that it is nothing and its his page he isn’t going to change it. He finally made his friends list private to keep me from hurting myself by looking. This past weekend he was going out (he hasn’t been to a club in the time we have been dating) to celebrate his nephews birthday and it was a club where these strippers work.

I tried to ignore the feeling and not bring it up but I couldn’t swallow it anymore. It caused an argument and he said he is going to have fun and nobody was going to stop him. I told him I don’t care if he goes I just wanted him to assure me I didn’t have anything to worry about. instead he got mad and said good bye.

I didn’t hear from him that night or the following morning to I texted him and told him I deserved better. he changed his Facebook to single but still has pictures of me and him up there. I wanted to show him how much this is disrespecting me and hope it might prompt him to change.

See what I mean? A lot going on. First let me say how much I love social media, Facebook, and all of the wonderful tools that technology has to offer us and our relationships today. They can be wonderful things. But at the same time, social media can be a complete disaster when it comes to relationships. Like our article, Facebook is not a diary, I also want to say that Facebook is not a barometer for measuring the status of your relationship. It’s handy, when you want to brag about a big relationship events moments in your life. But what I see all too often, and more often then I don’t, is women get hung up on little nuances on social media when it comes to their relationships. And men too, obviously, hence this letter today.

The Social Media Variable

“He’s got a picture of me up, that must mean he’s planning her wedding. He doesn’t have a picture of me up, that must mean we’re done and over. I woman who I don’t recognize just liked his photo, that must mean he’s cheating shirt.” Follow what I’m saying? Little nuances that happen on social media have a tendency to send women into a downhill spiral.

As they should. A committed boyfriend does not make his friends list private to spite his girlfriend. What is this “I did it to not hurt you” about? No.

I do not like this.

I do like that you told him that this was disrespectful. Because it is. Let’s take the strippers out entirely, not a sentence I get to say everyday, but let’s do that. This is game playing on social media. You. Absolutely. Deserve. Better.

But let’s get logical about this, because despite his valiant attempts at saving your emotions, they are running wild anyway.

Not only is Facebook not a diary, it’s not a microscope on every little thing that’s happening in your lovers life or your boyfriends life or your husband’s life. For all you know, the woman that just liked his photo could be a third cousin that he just reunited with after having never met her his whole life. I don’t know if there have been any studies on the topic or not, but I do think that women make more out of things that happen on Facebook and social media then is necessary.

But when Prince Charming is blocking his friends list from you to spare your heart, who can blame you??

Be logical though. Just step back from this entirely. He’s not even worth lighting into. But do talk to him about it. But do so after calmly and rationally and logically gathering the facts before you jump to any erroneous conclusions that you’ll draw that will derail your relationship hopes faster than any other second woman could.

Teach him how to treat you.

That being said, I want to address other issues in this letter. So we have some cheating going on, we have a long distance issue going on, and we have all kinds of crazy things happening on social media. First, Sarah, my first question to you is why do you want to be with this man?

You ask me how to make him respect you. I can’t do this. You can’t do this. He needs to make that choice. But you can certainly lead him in that direction. Don’t just say you need to be respected, show him. Check out our article on the 3 dating mistakes you might be making before you touch base with him or do anything, first.

Do you want to know how to get your boyfriend back after this big mess. Is that possible? Yes. You had a solid foundation of communication, and regular communication with that, and you have a solid foundation on which to build. So this is a good thing. You have probably had more communication in a relationship then many in person relationships have on a daily basis. So this is another great thing!

But then the games.

Then we have this big mess on social media with strippers and blocking messaging and angriness and all sorts of things like this. If Facebook didn’t exist, my guess would be that you two would still be together today. So take Facebook out of the equation for a little bit and just focus on what you need to do to bring back this communication in your relationship. Of course, for this specific case I’m going to recommend The No Contact rule.

For you, this means blocking him on Facebook. I know this is probably the last thing that you want to do, because you want to creep his Facebook and check out if he still looking at all those strippers and things of that nature. I know. We allll know. (Because we do it too.)

But this is just not the best course of action for you to take. Removing any possibility of letting Facebook upset you in this relationship is your best relationship advice you were going to get. The reason being, if you can’t see what he’s doing, then it can’t upset you. On that he is right, but he doesn’t get bonus points for hiding his strippers from you to spare your feelings.

In fact, he loses even more points because by even saying that he knows for you to see that would be disrespectful. He keeps doing these things because you let him. So stop letting him. Block that.

Don’t freak out about that. If you are broken up, you actually have no right to see what he’s doing. He’s right about that too. But again, no bonus points. Take comfort actually, in the fact that you can’t see his Facebook anymore. You will find much peace of mind with this. As well, and here’s the best part, you’ll be cutting off his opportunity to look at yours too! And that’s a great way to get the ball rolling to make him miss you and get your boyfriend back. If he tries to creep your profile, and he probably is, when he won’t be able to that well send him a little Squirrley.

Stay in the No Contact phase for at least 30 days, meaning don’t allow yourself any contact with him whatsoever for 30 days. Not by Facebook, not by text, not by email, nothing. Keep him blocked from your Facebook for at least 30 days, and give him some time to think about what he’s done! He’s been playing some serious games with you! Teach him how to treat you! Teach him that this is not OK, and you will remove the opportunity for him to see your Facebook.

The social proof.

Now we’re getting to the social proof of the equation. During those 30 days, begin enjoying your life. Have a look at some of our articles on how to stay true to the No Contact rule. Enjoy your life, and take lots of pictures of it, and post them to Facebook! This is not playing games, this is you having a life and submitting social proof on it. Then, after 30 days, unblock him from Facebook. Do not cave on this and do not unblock him sooner than those 30 days is up.

Wait a few days after that 30 day period is up, and just wait and see if he comes to you after he realizes that your Facebook has been very busy, and you’ve been having all kinds of fun unbeknownst to him, while he was blocked. If he doesn’t contact you, don’t be afraid to contact him. But again, as I say to everybody launching the No Contact zone, and coming out of that No Contacts zone, be very casual and breezy with how you approach him.

Remember, he may be a little upset that you blocked him. Granted, he doesn’t have a right to be. So if he tries to pick a fight with you about that, shut that down. Don’t get into a fight with him about it, but instead, almost act like you didn’t hear him, or just shrug it off. “Why are you so concerned about my Facebook page all of a sudden after you blocked me?” Shrug it off, change conversations. When you do contact him, keep your contact easy and casual. Sent him a funny video, send him a link to a movie you want to see, things of this nature. Don’t say much, just touch base with him and say something casual like, “just wanted to know what you’ve been up to, hope you are well.”

Again, do you not bring up any of your previous problems, as neither one of you wants to be reminded of those. But if you do this, not only will you make him miss you, you will make him crave you. A woman that demands respect from her partner is very attractive. When he sees you’ve been sharing that with the world without him, he will reconsider his options too. Put your foot down about the strippers, and keep it there. You may want to review my tips on how to know it’s time to walk away.

You’ve got to take control of the situation if you want to get your boyfriend back, and these are my recommendations. Dear readers, how do you handle came playing in relationships on social media? Have you ever been in this kind of situation? Ask me a question, or I’d love to hear your stories below.

Relationship Advice for Long Distance Relationships: The No Contact Rule Worked!

March 6, 2018 By Christine

We love hearing about how our relationship advice for women works! And believe it or not, as often as we get sad questions of confusion, we do often get letters where our dear friends are telling us that the No Contact rule is working, and that the man is missing them. Such is the case for our friend Nancy today, who is in a long-distance relationship. He has already let her know that he misses her! Woo hoo! Good for you, Nancy! But, what next?

The rules when you want to know how to get your boyfriend back when you are in a long distance relationship are a little more complicated then when he’s staring you in the face every day. And when you’re in a long-distance relationship, the No Contact rule is a lot easier to do. This is something that Nancy has discovered, and it has worked out very well for her. Nancy, I want to congratulate you on sticking it through, and working out this No Contact rule. You are doing everything right, girlfriend!

But Nancy is finding herself in that gap where the No Contact rule is over, and she wants to know how to get her boyfriend back. Communication and contact has resumed, and she just doesn’t know what to do now. She is confused, and not sure where this relationship is headed. And this is the predominant theme in long distance relationships. Here is Nancy’s story.

Hi Michelle,

I was dating my ex for six months ( we were long distance ). He became distant and cold so when I ended it I initiated No Contact. I stayed very strong. Now, completely textbook, he’s sending me messages about how much he misses me etc. yet when I respond, he vanishes again. He says he’s scared because he can’t relocate ( he lives in Denver). So I don’t know how to bridge the gap now since I cut him off for thirty days. He wrote me a nice text message about how I was his inspiration and how he was scared of the future with me since he couldn’t relocate and I responded back that I had to take care of myself and the relationship had become toxic. I feel like he’s friend zoning me now with texts. How do I stay out of ‘pen pal status’? When I say I miss him also…..I don’t really hear from him which makes me feel like he’s still playing games . The push pull. When I’m available…..he takes it for granted. When I cut him off…..he’s sad and missed me. Ugh. Now I haven’t heard from him in ten days and ironically I’ll Be in Denver next week for work. I want to reach out but all my friends say ‘don’t you dare!!!’ Help!!

Feeling confused and sad. Nancy

We have a lot of information about this relationship from this short note. Here we have two people who very clearly care about each other. And they miss each other! You would almost think that this is the perfect relationship. As Nancy says, the No Contact rule worked like a textbook picture for her. And this is wonderful. What this tells us is that all hope is not lost here.

What I can also see from this short note, Nancy, is that there are two things that you need in order to find satisfaction in this relationship. So first off, you need some relationship advice on how to navigate long-distance relationships, when you both care about each other very much. The second thing you need to figure out, is what you actually want from this relationship. I am not quite sure that you know what you want here. You seem torn to me, but that’s not a bad thing. I think in every relationship we experience that at some point during the course of the relationship. And when you add the complication of a long distance relationship to the mix, it’s very easy to feel torn.

Should you stay or should you go?

This is not a question that I can answer for you, Nancy. This is a question that you need to answer yourself. But, having been in this situation before, I can give you a few tips and clues on how to sort this one out. For starters, you need to really think about this person, what they mean to you, and how badly you do or do not want them in your life.

When you undergo that time of reflection to really soul search and come up with that answer, I want you to take the distance out of the equation. Just do this soul-searching on the basis of this guy alone. Can you see yourself or your life without him? If so, then you know what you need to do. But if you can’t, then you also know what you need to do.

If you want things to progress here, my suggestion is that you sit him down for a skype session and just hash it out with him one way or another. Check out our 7 ways to find intimacy with your partner first, so that you are emotionally in the right place. Then, send a teaser text or email to gauge his temperature on the relationship and see how he responds. It could be a cute quote meme from the Internet, or just some brief but minor thoughts letting him know that you think of him and miss him. While you wait for his response, check out some of our articles on what to do after the No Contact Zone is over, and how to use that time during the No Contact Zone.

I agree with your friends, a trip to Denver out of the blue may not be the best idea. Yet. Not doing so is one way to make him miss you. You don’t want to be too available for him just yet without knowing what he really wants. But you can learn how to get your boyfriend back by just taking a few simple but casual steps that will let him know your interested.

I have hope for your case. I think in this situation he may respond exactly how you want him to. He already has before! And do let us know how this one turns out. Dear Readers, what do you think Nancy should do? How do you keep the sparks alive in your long distance relationships?

Make Him Miss You: Can my Sister Contact him for me During the No Contact Period?

February 24, 2018 By Christine

We have all been in a situation where we want to know how to make him miss us, and we will do just about anything to reach that point. This is exactly why we get a lot of letters from women asking us how can we make him miss you without looking needy and desperate. Unfortunately, our emotions take over sometimes, and you work so hard to get your boyfriend back that what you end up doing is driving him farther away.

Then when that happens, you try and take even more desperate means to make him miss you or get your boyfriend back. It’s a vicious cycle. And none of it feels good. Relationships are supposed to feel good! And when they don’t, that’s when we start seeking relationship advice.

We have a reader who was in a relationship that appeared to have some regular and frequent problems. She feels like she drove him away, or was unhappy some of the time in a way that drove him away, and now she wants to know how to make him miss her. She’s doing very well in the sense that she knows she needs to engage the No Contact zone at this point, but has run into a bit of a pickle. She wants to know if it’s OK if her sister contact him for her, during the No Contact zone.

I think you all know what my answer this one is going to be.

The short answer? No.

If you are having someone else contact him for you during the No Contact zone, you are breaking the rules of the No Contact period. No Contact is No Contact, period. That means by you, by your sister, by your friend, by the pizza delivery guy, by anyone. But let’s have a look at this letter in more detail.

I’ve been with my bf for 4 years he decided to break up in one of the most difficult moment and also because of an argument during this moment. We have many argument but it never actually call quits it was more like a 2 hours no speaking moment. We have a lot of communication problems as in when there is a disagreement/argument he never wants to talk about it he just say he’s done with the relationship but he never really ends it.

I moved so we’ve spent this month would be 1 year away from each other. He has complained that I never smile around him which I do, I just have this natural look on my face that I’ve actually had/made all my life which makes look upset but I’m not along with other issues like telling him stop doing things that he’s always done even if it was a joke he claims it wasn’t. I have been a little more happier now than before I moved. Is there hope that we can be together again.

I’m doing the No Contact period it’s been a week. But I also asked my sister to ask him what’s going on with us he said he doesn’t want to talk about it and we’re done but he told me to promise him to always be together no matter what, and that I was the only female he ever loved like he loved me if you get what I mean. Is he just hurt and there’s hope, he just need space or should i stop fighting? Monifah

Happiness is a choice.

The first thing I want to say to our friend, is that what I can see clearly from this letter is that there is a deep sense of dissatisfaction in this relationship. I do not know if this is an overall sense of dissatisfaction in life in general, or if we are just unhappy in this relationship altogether. One piece of relationship advice I want to give to this friend, and to all of our friends, is that happiness is a choice you make. In other words, it is not something that happens to you. It is something that you need to consciously decide in your life.

Life is set up in such a way that it is going to be ripe with hills and valleys. Never judge your book by the cover of somebody else’s. We look at pretty and wealthy people all the time, and it is human nature to just compare our lives with them, and then we promptly feel bad about our lives. This is not the way to lead to successful life, and it is certainly not going to help you have successful relationships. If you want happy relationships, you have to choose it. If you want a happy life, you have to decide, and make that conscious choice to have a happy life.

Our dear friend here is in a relationship where she is getting some good communication and some good relationship advice from her own boyfriend. He saying to her that he doesn’t think she’s happy, and that she even looks like she’s unhappy quite a lot of the time. This is sad for me. But this happens to all of us! What I really like about what you were doing here, dear reader, is that you are validating his concerns and consciously working on improving your overall outlook. That’s very important, and I want to congratulate you on that!

You need to keep doing that! But most importantly, you need to make the active choice every single day of your life to be happy that day. And that means, you need to decide to be happy no matter what happens to you that day. We all have bad days. And we all have bad things happening in our lives. Yes, even the pretty and wealthy people. Believe it or not, sometimes the pretty and wealthy people have bigger problems than we will ever have.

So if you’re going to compare yourself to them, that’s the way to do it. Be thankful that you don’t have their problems. So I just wanted to cover that issue of overall happiness before we look into this relationship in more detail.

The No Contact zone

Our dear friend here knows enough about her own relationship to know that she needs a little bit of a breather in it. And it does sound like there’s a bit of tension between you and your partner as far as your overall happiness in the relationship as well. So I think that you are right, that the best thing for both of you right now is a little bit of space. And that means of course, launching The No Contact zone. So you need to do that, you need to do that right away, and you need to make the conscious choice to stick to it.

That also means, do you not have your sister text him to see how he’s doing. Do not send pizza to his house and then bug the pizza delivery guy to see how he’s doing. No Contact means No Contact. This is hard to do! I get it! Have a look at how to stay true to this Rule because it will help.

This is a difficult and stressful time, I know. And all you want to do is talk to him and hear from him and know that things are OK with him. We’ve all been there! But I really think that you will see that if you can stick to this, that it will really work for you.

He likes you!

My gut instinct on this one, is that he really likes you, he just doesn’t like seeing you so unhappy all the time. Men feel fulfilled when they are able to make their partner happy. Believe it or not, the key to making a man happy in your relationship is making sure that he knows that you’re making him happy! Men want to feel cherished and adored and respected and appreciated and exactly the same way that we do! When you give him a little bit of space, and focus on your own happiness, this will come naturally to you.

Spend the next 30 days in the No Contact zone, and begin really practicing on getting that smile back on your face. Distract yourself with so many activities, and keep yourself busy on things that make you smile. By the time that No Contact zone is over, it will be that much easier for you to touch base with him in a very brief and casual way and let him know that he makes you smile. And when you do contact him again after 30 days, I would do it just that way. In a very brief and casual way that lets him know that he is the source of your smile that day.

You do not want to give him the impression that your happiness depends on him. The No Contact zone will give him a chance to make him miss you. And then when you touch base with him again, and he sees how happy and full of your life is, you’ll have a better chance of seeing how to get your boyfriend back by reminding him how appreciated he is to you.

I also think you would benefit in checking to see if you are making any of these 3 dating mistakes, and reviewing ways to bring that intimacy and connection back when you get your boyfriend back. If you have questions, shoot them in the comment below or send me another note. Do not stray from this plan! No. Contact. It shows him you are confident in your worth, and this will reeeeeaaaally make him miss you.

That kind of confidence in your own self-worth, and your own happiness, is very attractive. It is actually irresistible to men! So try these things my dear, and you let us know how this goes. Dear readers have you ever been in this kind of situation? What do you do to try and fill out your own life with your own personal sense of joy?

Dating Advice for Women: How Do I Get Him Back If He’s Not My Boyfriend

December 26, 2017 By Christine

There is nothing more frustrating in the dating game than scaring a guy off, and then running like a hamster on the wheel to try and get your boyfriend back. If you really want to know how to get your boyfriend back after you have scared him a little bit, you’ve got to give him some space. This is the hardest relationship advice and dating advice for women to accept, because our intuitive desire when something like this happens is to try and fix things.

But at the other end of the line, there is a person that right now needs space, and doesn’t want things to be fixed. The only way you can make him miss you, is to actually make him miss you by giving him the space that he obviously needs. And sometimes signals got crossed along the way. Sometimes we only date someone a few times, but realize this is someone with some amazing potential, and will do anything to keep that person in our lives. But unfortunately, that “doing anything” to keep him with you, is exactly what will drive him away.

The most common time for these mistakes in a relationship is early in the relationship. And as I always say, if you feel something magical and if you feel a spark, the chances that the other person does too is very real and tangible. But you cannot rush a spark along, or you’re going to wind up with a big explosion. So if you want to get someone back, that you’re not even sure where they stand with you because it’s early, you really have to tread lightly.

We have a reader involved in this very sort of scenario. The dating relationship is very early, but on the plus side for her, she has already met his mother. As we all know, this doesn’t happen often unless the guy is thinking seriously. But at the same time, meeting someone’s family is not your cue from Universe to dive in and push that spark into a full-blown explosion. And it looks like this is what’s happened here with our reader. Let’s have a look at Judith’s story.

Would the No Contact rule work, if he is not my boyfriend?

We were just talking for a month and a half, we went on four dates. I met his mom.

I was extremely desperate after he asked for space, and the last text I sent him was extremely long, telling him I want him back and I apologized and how much I appreciated him and hopefully we could see each other. But its been a week a few days, I haven’t heard. Before that message I had texted him a few days earlier and he hasn’t replied to my last text if he was interested. I think I scared him off, but I really want him back. Judith

So here we have a situation of a relationship and its very early stages, but with some promise. We have a relationship where four dates happened in a month and a half, and that’s pretty good progress in itself. That’s a lot of contacts for two people that are just getting to know each other. Then she met his mother.

Where this relationship went wrong

I suspect that it was at this point in the relationship where things went sour, because mixed signals were being sent all across-the-board by both parties. I’ve talked about Mixed Signals Guy before. I really try to suggest not meeting family members until you have a known commitment in place that you both have discussed and talked over, and have made that commitment together. But life is life, and today’s family is so much different then family life of generations of yore, and sometimes you just can’t control this.

I don’t really know what the exact situation was as to how you met his mother, or what the circumstances were. Was it an accident? Did you happen to see her when you stopped at his house one day to pick up a sandwich or watch a movie or something? Was it a planned meeting where you all knew that this was going to be a big moment in your dating experience? I don’t know. So it’s hard for me to make any assumptions at all on how meeting his mother plays into your overall relationship outlook.

That being said, it is still a very good sign that you met his mother. But if things went sour shortly after that I have a few possible reasons for this. I think what happened at this point in the relationship was that you both started feeling some pretty intense feelings, but they weren’t the same intense feelings. And then when you, Judith, began to share your intense feelings, it freaked him out and he put you at arms length. And then eventually, he cut you off all together. Ouch. Sorry that happened.

This is not to say that I think you did anything wrong. I think it’s perfectly natural for any woman in a relationship to begin to raise their expectations after they’ve met family members of someone that they’ve had four dates with in a month long period. I think any woman would think and feel and react the same way that you did. And this is why communication is so important in relationships. It’s very easy to make assumptions about where a relationship is going after an experience like that. This is why I always say you should never make assumptions unless you have both had this conversation or communication with each other about what this particular step in your dating life means.

I’m guessing that you did not have this conversation with him. Now you are left a little confused and as you said yourself, desperate. But this is a relationship that is not without hope. Four dates is a lot, and if he likes you enough to keep seeing you at this pace, my guess is that if you were that same girl that you were during that month and a half time frame, he would have those desperate moments erased and replaced with those good memories. And this would be a good foundation for you to build on to make him miss you and get your boyfriend back. And yes, I think it is safe to call him your boyfriend, but you are in a bit of a break up. Right now, and you need to use this time wisely. But hope is not lost here!

What you need to do

The one thing that you need to do right now, Judith, is give him space. Put down the phone, girlfriends. Something weird happens to us ladies when we are trying to connect with someone, and they don’t respond. Our heart rate increases, our emotions get on that hamster wheel again, and we begin thinking and questioning and analyzing wondering what the heck is going on. This is the wrong space to be in if you really want to know how to get your boyfriend back. You need to be the cool calm and collected girl, that he obviously went crazy about. So the best way to get back into that cool, calm, and collected girlfriend mode, is to be cool and collected. And that means No Contact right now. Don’t make one of these common dating mistakes and break on this.

Do that for a month. In the meantime, have a look at some of my articles on what to do during the No Contact zone. Fill your life, make yourself very busy and distract yourself so that you’re not thinking or obsessing about this person. And stop texting him. Text everybody else in the world, but do not text him. Let some time pass, I always suggest a month, and THEN reach out again.

When you do reach out again, do not speak about any of your prior problems. Be casual and breezy, and remember to be cool and collected. Send him a funny cartoon that you saw, send him a news article that you want him to look at, just touch base with him in a very casual way that lets him know that you’re thinking of him, and you’re not acting desperate.

Sometimes we women overthink these things. And the best relationship advice is usually the most simple relationship advice for women. If you have scared him off, it is time to not act scary. And sometimes we act scary without even realizing it, because our emotions are in overdrive. Frankly, your emotions are warranted. If a guy introduced me to his mother, and then blew me off, I would have a few problems with him. And honestly, I might not be all that desperate to get him back if this is the way that he treats me after such an experience. But I don’t know what the circumstances were there, only you do, Judith.

Right now, you need to teach him how to treat you, and that is going to happen by giving him the space that he obviously wants. Then, if after a month you still think a guy like this is worth your time, then shoot him out a text or an email that is very casual and breezy. And let us know what happens! Dear readers, do you think it’s fair that a guy blew her off after meeting his mother? What would you do in the situation? Has it ever happened to you? I’d love to hear more stories on this!