When it comes to dating, the process can be a little daunting in this world we live in. This is especially true if you are looking for someone in the world of Christian dating. I happen to be a Christian as well, and I bet if we were sitting in a metaphorical room the person beside you on the left and right would likely be one as well. The truth is, Christianity is the largest religion in America right now. When you combine all of the denominations that celebrate Christianity, some surveys suggest that as many as 76% of Americans are Christians of one faith or another.
That’s quite a lot.
But if you go to church regularly, or had a period in your life where you did, or are actively engaged with your Christian spirituality, it probably doesn’t feel that way when you look out into the secular part of the world. The big screen scandalizes and glamorizes sex and love in a way that goes well against what the Christian churches believe. Drugs, alcohol, and abuse are all pervasive issues in our society that are in direct contradiction to Christian teachings. It is a scary world out there, or it can be, if you are a Christian just trying to find a nice guy or girl for some Christian dating.
My Christian dating advice to you on that one is, be sensible about it. When it comes to Christian dating, I don’t need to tell you how to do it as you have the gold standard of standards right there for you in the Bible. That is something you already believe in, that offers a wonderful set of rules, guidelines, and instructions for you on how you should behave in society. You take what you need from it, and conduct yourself accordingly.
What you want to know from me is, how do I meet the guys or the girls when everyone in my church is over 60 years old, and everybody else I know is doing drugs, or having sex, or…well, you fill in the blank however you like.
This is where you need to get sensible. No, you aren’t going to meet your mate at the Saturday night Parish Bingo any more than you are going to meet your mate on the corner where your other grand friends are performing their drug deals.
Go where the Christians are my friend, and I will bet my retirement that you will find at least one that you like.
In other words, put yourself in the situations that you know will increase your chances of meeting someone who is like minded in this all important variable of relationships. If you like online dating, you will be happy to know that there are many dedicated online dating sites that cater specifically to this niche. Online dating sites JUST for Christians. It may be a good starting point.
Let’s go back to being sensible.
Don’t be fooled into thinking that every guy or girl on that is still being honest. Remember that secular world we live in with a percentage of scammers amongst any large group of people. There are going to be people there that aren’t what they say they are, just like any other area of life. Practice all of your safety rules when meeting strangers, meet in public, and as they say, let the spirit guide you. Your instinct will serve you well. Call it your own spirit guided set of sense and sensibilities shall we?
There are other numerous ways you can meet Christians to socialize with. If you don’t have a younger group at your church that socializes, why not organize one? 60 year old parishioners have adult age children and grandchildren, there could be a market there that you just aren’t tapping into!
At the end of the day, your Christian dating is in your hands. If you believe in God and His will for your life, then you have more tools in your toolbox of dating than others who don’t hold this belief. Use those skills and tools, be the person you want to attract, and find the places to be where like minded others will be as well.
The rest? Is all up to you.