If you are suddenly finding yourself in the position of being single, one thing that might be going through your mind over and over right now is how to get your boyfriend back. There are few women that don’t wonder this very thing when a healthy relationship ends, and they want to fix it.
And men, normally the gender in the business of fixing what is broken, seem less than interested at this point. In fact, it may even feel like he prefers this “thing” you had to stay broken.
Then you’ve probably been trying ways to make him miss you that aren’t working. You’ve probably been using old standbys that women for generations have used to get a guy back, and they are counterproductive.
If you want to truly win him back, you have to change your gameplan. Here’s how.
Emotional Hot Buttons
They are called “emotional hot buttons” and we all have them, and emotional hot buttons on a man are very powerful things. If you can find a way to control those buttons, or at least trigger them, you will be well on your way to get your boyfriend back.
The first thing you need to do is stop doing what you are doing, because chances are you are using women’s techniques. It seems rational to you, because you are a woman, but what will work on your girlfriends when you are sad about something just plain isn’t going to work on your man.
Because he’s a man. And men have different emotional hot buttons than we do.
To make your ex want you, you have to tap into these emotional buttons that will change his mindset as well. When he starts feeling anything differently from the anger, bitterness, or resentment that lead to the breakup, his mindset will begin to turn in your favor, and you have a better chance to win him back.
But you say, “men are supposed to be the logical creatures while we are the emotional ones in society.”
That’s so true! And knowing this will be an incredible tool to get your boyfriend back! Use it. The more logical a man is, the more predictable he becomes to you as well. See how what may seem like a disadvantage to you could actually be an opportunity to make him miss you?
If you know that he’s logical, don’t use logic and reason to try and get him back. And don’t tell him how much you miss him either.
These are logical rational things that only SEEM logical, and will only drive him further away. Use his logical and rational frame of mind instead to push his emotional hot buttons. If you had a good relationship, then you know what those hot buttons are, you know what makes him feel all warm and fuzzy inside.
Now you just have to use the sexiest version of you possible to trigger those warm and fuzzies again.
If you don’t want to drive him away, then do the opposite of what he is expecting and this will help trigger those warm and fuzzies. He will be expecting you to beg for him back or at least tell him how much you want him back.
What He Does’t Expect
What he won’t expect from you is a little distance, which is the most logical thing to do at this point. He can’t push you away if you aren’t close, so put that distance in and add a dash of mystery. Bob Grant relationship expert says “The more a man’s imagination works for you, the more he becomes curious.”
If you are wondering how to make your ex boyfriend miss you, you need to start tapping right into that imagination of his. Make him curious. You won’t be able to do that if you are in his face begging for his love every chance you get. So, create some emotional distance and get his attention.