Get Him Back After Pushing Him Away

Some women find it difficult to cope with a break up simply because they expected the relationship to last forever. This is why magazines offering relationship advice for women are always a hit. A woman’s relationship with a man is a fragile thing, and women who lost their men because of too much bickering, jealousy and other relationship issues know this well.

There are no guarantees when it comes to relationships, regardless of how you started. You may have started out strong, and romance was never a problem between you and your man. But even the strongest relationships hit the skids. Even the marriages that have been around for a long time are not exactly free of problems.

If you know that you’ve found the love of your life but several mistakes inside the relationship made him drift away from you, here are some tips on how to get him back.

One main reason why men stray is the thought that the woman doesn’t want the relationship anymore. Men and women are different when it comes to the reason for staying inside the relationship. If your man feels unneeded, or he thinks he’s getting in your way because of the way he is, he may decide to spare you both the drama and simply leave.

Men have their pride. If you’re the one who caused the break up, he is less likely to come running back to you just because he misses you. Make it known that your doors are open for a possible reconciliation. You can tell some common friends your intentions. Better yet, tell him yourself by calling him. This puts the ball in his court.

When you’re always around hounding him, or you’re always begging him to reconsider his decision to break up, he forgets that you’re the woman he fell for a long time ago. All he thinks about is how to get away from you so he can finally think in peace. Pestering your ex constantly can turn him off for good. It’s easier to have a change of heart if you’re feeling suffocated with bad memories. This is the main reason why desperation is never a good thing when it comes to relationships.
 
Creating distance actually makes you more attractive to him. Making a man miss you by giving him space is a method that’s worth trying. In time, he will remember the good things about you more than the bad things that happened during your break up. Let the pleasant memories of your relationship fill his head so that he can appreciate what a blessing your relationship is despite the occasional fights.

Have a positive attitude so that you won’t waver in your resolve to get your man back. In reality, your real enemy is your mind. Once you decide to let go of that positive attitude, you start stressing yourself out with thoughts of never being with your lover again.

As long as you have decided to stick with your plan to get back together, bad vibes from other people should not affect you. However, you’re human and you can’t help feeling depressed when someone tells you to give up because your situation is hopeless. Stay away from people or scenarios that weaken your resolve.

Comments

  1. megan says:

    wow this article was amazing. not just because i want hope for my relationship but because it spoke the truth. ive been following the distance steps and putting it out there that im open for reconciliation to our mutual friends. I’m hoping that it works. we were together for a year no arguments or anything til my ex came back in the picture and screwed things up. losing him made me realize just how much he meant and how stupid i was to even think of my ex. its been about 4 days since the break up and im going to give him more time to think and remember me because our love was that strong that i know he may very well miss me. I just hope i haven’t pushed him too far. :S

  2. Dawn says:

    What happends if you did push him too far and “pestered my ex constantly” until he told me that he doesnt love me anymore and he asked another girl out. Is there any hope?

  3. Mina says:

    Yes, i am aware that in order to get him back i need to give him space..LOTS of it. The only problem I’m having is he keeps on asking how I was and it kept me on giving him responses only to know that in the end, I’m starting to get comfortable talking to him again until the time that he will not respond again for a long time..Argh! I’m going crazy just because of these things and I should not be ‘coz I do have a life. You know, we all do. So I’m getting quite annoyed on the fact that these men do ignore us if in fact we were the ones keeping and making the relationship work anyway. But LOL, I miss him so much that’s why I keep on telling myself I must keep on waiting for him whatever happens. God, be my guide! Thanks.

  4. Amyi Rose says:

    Wow right on the spot.