Dating Advice For The Soul Mate That Has Had Enough

Ever been in one of those relationships where it just felt like you were bouncing back and forth with each other, and your feelings? Of course you have. One of the reasons so many couples have a yo-yo relationship, for years, is the soul mate factor. I am no expert on soul mates but one thing I do know about love and relationships is that if you are having the same yo-yo effect in your relationship for years, there’s a high love potential there. This could even be soulmate level. Most relationships do not go on and on like this for years, unless there is SOMEthing keeping that string going on the yo-yo. We get questions from readers about this yo-yo experience all the time. The biggest relationship advice question they have is, “We broke up and what do I do now??”

Today we are going to look at just such a scenario. We have a couple who by all counts, over the course of three years, have told each other they are each other’s soul mate. They’ve broken up multiple times, and each time they find themselves kissing each other eventually. Our reader, Amy, has noted her problems in the relationships, and has owned her part.

That’s a standing ovation from me for that! Some people go their entire lives never figuring this out, that they need to own their part. So Amy has been doing her work on her since the last breakup. Now she wants to know what to do. Let’s have a look at this story.

Its been almost 2 weeks since my ex bf split with me. We were a bit hungover on a Sunday afternoon and I started to nag and annoy him which made him flip out dramatically and him scream “I can’t do this anymore” and leave the house. I fb messaged him the next day to say he was a coward to leave me like that no real explanation and he just confirmed again saying, I just can’t do it with you anymore. I told him he was nothing to me and since then I haven’t spoken to him since.  I’m trying to give him space and using the no contact rule. But I feel like I haven’t a clue what is happening, especially in his head.  A bit about us – We have been together for almost 3 years now, we are best friends we do everything together, and that’s because we both want to…He loves the bones off me, he’s the sweetest guy does anything and everything for me emotionally and physically. He is my soul mate the only person who gets me and I get him and he says this to me 24/7. However, the last half year or so I’ve been insecure about my weight, that I have gained, I’ve had no job, he has been paying for everything helping me. I suppose I’ve got a bit lazy with myself and everything and then of course the nagging.

Last 6 months or so he has broken up with me a few times over WhatsApp/text saying we need to go our separate ways he cant do it blablabla, finding an excuse, leaving me in tears and upset. Straight away I have told him not to and said sorry things will change blablabla. Of course, he comes over and sees me and him being the beautiful soul he is hugs me and stays and we carry on the relationship just like that. But nothing changes, I don’t change. But now I am. I am working on myself, eating healthily, exercising, I’ve lost several pounds already. I’m not drinking. I really can see now what I have done wrong and how I let the fun get sucked out of the relationship because when we are happy my god, we are happy!

What do I do? I want to fix this so bad! Apart from my nagging and moaning, everything was perfect! I am on my tenth day of contact but I think I need to apologise and let him know how I feel. He could just be thinking I am angry and don’t wanna speak to him? What do I do?

 Let’s address the first question: What is he thinking?

 The answer to that is, if he’s not telling you, it’s none of your business. The other answer to that is, you don’t need to know what he is thinking to fix this.  How your relationship functions is not a function of ONLY what he is thinking. You’ve taken some steps already, Amy, that show that you know this. You know you own your part in the split. I can’t congratulate you enough for that.

Never change your weight for a guy, period. But if you know that some nagging issues have led to this demise or breakup, then you know how to fix at least your role in this breakup. If you want to get your boyfriend back, the next step is the No Contact Rule.  You say, “I am trying to follow the No Contact Rule but it’s hard because I don’t know what’s in his head.”

Again, you don’t need to for the No Contact Rule to be successful. You will learn what he is thinking by activating the No Contact Zone immediately. But you have to stay true to it. You can’t just say you aren’t going to contact him, and then give up on your Self because he texted you. The No Contact Period is for YOU to clear your head and get your stuff together. You’ve already started this. But you can’t clear your head when you are answering his messages.

He’s already told you that you are his soul mate.  Those are some serious words! You have the advantage of having true love and experience on your side.  So you can’t make him miss you by being in his face all the time. And that’s what you really want at this stage of the game.

Let’s look at your second question: What do I do now??

 You’ve answered your own question. You know you need the No Contact Period, but you just have to get committed to it.  I talk a lot about How to Stay True to the No Contact Rule. Refresh your memory on that, and make the choice to be committed to it. You want to get your boyfriend back, right? So be as committed to the process, no matter how hard it is, as you are to him.  It is for the benefit of your relationship if he sees what it’s like to go 30 days without hearing back from you.

My guess is that it’s going to be very difficult for him to do this. And through that, you will make him miss you.

Once that 30 days is up, touch base with him about something super minor and breezy. Or just say hi. Make sure you let him know that you’ve been doing a lot of work on you in your quiet time. He will really admire you for that! After he responds, I am confident you can take it from there. Let us know how this goes, we are all rooting for you! Readers, what do you think Amy should do? Have you had a similar soul mate experience?

 

 

Dating Advice: What To Do AFTER the No Contact Period Makes Him Miss You

One of the hardest things about relationships is missing someone.  And, as you know, one of the most common pieces of dating advice or relationship advice that I have is, activate a No Contact Rule.  Why? Because it works. If there is only one tool that can make him miss you, it’s making him miss you. And the only way you can do that is through No Contact. That means zero. Zilch. None. Period. No matter how much he texts you or Facebook messages you or calls and leaves the pleading voicemails.

If he’s doing that, you have proof that you are winning in the “make him miss you” stage.  If he’s not contacting you, but you do have a history, he’s still thinking about you. That’s why the No Contact component of the Make Him Miss You mission is SO successful.  When you aren’t easy to get to, he wonders.  It’s human nature!

But that 30 day period of No Contact is really hard. I get it. While you are making him miss you, you are missing him. Dreadfully.  But what next? We have a reader who is doing very well with the No Contact rule, and just needs to know what to do when that is complete. We get this question all the time. So today I want you to see what happens when the No Contact Rule actually works. We have one reader who is about halfway through the process of the No Contact and the “Make Him Miss You” stage. The only relationship advice she needs at this point is, what next. So let’s have a look and see if we can help her out.

 I was dating a guy for a couple months. But the couple months were fast and intense. We went away for a weekend together by our fourth date. We had so much fun together, even the bartenders would come over and say they just enjoyed watching us together and listening to our conversations. It seemed like we had a real connection.  but things were early, we were both open about the fact that we were not exclusive (we were both dating another person). But it seemed like we were spending more time together and he told me he had a better connection with me. He took me to concerts, out on the town, and offered to take me to a patriots game. 3 days before the game, he texted me and told me he was so sorry but his dad was coming into town unexpectedly (from GA to MA) and he was going to have to take him instead. I was pissed but didn’t lash out. Just told him no, he couldn’t make it up to me. Good luck and have a nice life basically. I was pissed because as a nurse that works every other weekend, had to make a bunch of switches to go to the game and he knew that. I also assumed he would try to win me back instead of accepting the boot.

Then on Facebook (relationship killer, i know)  I saw that his dad tagged both the guy and another girl in thanking them for a great weekend. When I asked who the girl was, he explained it was the other girl he was seeing and no, he did not take her to the game in my place, he had taken her to the Red Sox and she met his dad with him for a few drinks. I unleashed. Totally went nuts and it went back and forth between, he didn’t want to see me, yes he did, I didn’t want to see him, yes I did. The convo ended with him buying tickets to a concert for us. Being embarrassed about how crazy I went, I ended up cancelling on the concert. I assume he took the other girl instead.

2 days of no contact, i sent him an apology text about how crazy I went and how sorry I am, and that I was just so stressed from court (with my ex) and I would hope he’d be up for getting a beer with me later in the week. I also said, I hope to hear back from you, but if not, good luck with everything and that I genuinely meant that. I didn’t hear back from him. That was now 6 days ago.

I deleted him from my Facebook and unfollowed him on Instagram because I didn’t want anything else popping up on my newsfeed. He still follows me on Instagram and snapchat so I’ve tried to keep my posts to a minimum.   I will continue the no contact rule, because 1- it’s the only way I’m going to make him miss me and 2- he may not want to hear from me anyway. but I feel like I need someone to tell me exactly how it is. Do I text him in a month to say hi? Or do I just leave it and lose one of the greatest connections I felt I’ve ever had?  Sincerely, Kristine

 Let’s all stop and give Kristine a big round of applause for making it this far in the No Contact Period. We know he still has feelings or he wouldn’t still be following you on social media. So there’s something here to work with. The next few weeks are the hardest, because you want to text him or call so badly, but are still in that zone.

What you’ve done right so far….

Don’t succumb to folding the No Contact Zone.  Kristine is being smart here about what she is posting on social media, so she doesn’t send any wrong or mixed messages to someone that she cares about very deeply.  She has owned her part in the relationship, and the relationship demise. She has apologized, and tried to move past it.

When it comes to fixing past mistakes, that’s all you can do. What he does with it from this point forward is on him, not you. So you’ve done everything, and by that I mean everything, right so far. You’ve been very clear in your intentions, as has he, and you two clearly know how to communicate to each other. It’s okay to get upset with him sometimes. That’s called being human. But you’ve both demonstrated your ability to be clear and real with each other. That’s a huge relationship accomplishment in itself! Thank you for serving as a good example to all women seeking dating or relationship advice in similar situations.

So that’s what you’ve done right. I am not going to take a leap and say you have done anything wrong, either. You have done everything right. So let’s have a look at your next question.

What do I do after the No Contact Zone?

The one thing to do after the No Contact period is up is to touch base. Once you are past the 30 day mark, you are out of the zone. You can feel free to contact him. Follow your heart here. I can give you a sample text to use, but I think you’ve got this one covered. Invite him for a drink if you are feeling bold and that is what your heart is telling you to do. Or just send a text that just says, “Hey, remember me? Been thinking about you and wondering how you’ve been.”

If you are feeling even more bold than that, bring up the commitment issue. What have you got to lose? Well, if he doesn’t want the same thing, you might lose him. For now. But after a month of you making him miss you, things may be different for him now. And if he doesn’t want the same thing, now you know you don’t need to waste more time on him. Thank him for the learning experience of an awesome connection, and move on to find the guy that will give you an even better one, a committed one.

But I have a hunch that this guy may surprise you. Check out our instructions on How to Get Your Ex Back AFTER the No Contact Period. See? Your question is more common and relatable than you think. Let us know what you decide to do, and how it goes for you! Readers, do you have anything to add to this relationship advice?

 

How to Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back When You Are Dealing With Mixed Signals Guy

There are enough issues on the road to life, love, and happiness, that even when you are presented with the black and white of it, it can still be pretty confusing. But when you are given the grey matter in your daily matters, life can seem nothing short of chaotic. Unfortunately, when it comes to matters of the heart, very few things come to us in black and white. Wouldn’t it be absolutely wonderful if we were given black and white roadmap when dealing with our love affairs? If he says this, he means this. If he does this, he meant that. Of course it would, but we, as humans, don’t really work that way. Although this could be a big complaint in the world of romance, if we did work that way, life would be really, really boring. At the same time however, human behavior as grey as it can be sometimes, can be pretty predictable as well. That’s why many of the methods I discuss for those wanting to know relationship advice for mixed signals guy really work. Because of that predictable nature of human relationship.

Today I am going to address a reader’s concern on how to deal with things when things don’t seem so predictable. Many of you write in talking about the same guy. No, I’m not saying you are all dating the same man. But many of you are all dating the same type of guy. You know the guy. If you haven’t dated him yet, you may well before you find The One. His name? Mixed Signals Guy. Nothing aggravates me more than when I am dating a guy that says one thing, and does another, and that’s exactly the trademark of Mixed Signals Guy. We have a reader dealing with one, and let’s look at her problem and get to the brass tax of it. Here’s what she says:

I was dating my boyfriend for 6 months and we literally had the time of our lives together. We always made each other happy and he was very respectful and I loved it! Then I had surgery done and he disappeared after that and never spoke to me till 3 months later. When he spoke to me yea I was bitchy because he made a douchebag move but he let everything out. At this moment we are friends and it’s been 7 months since we last dated. We’ve tried to talk(date) again but it didn’t work out as how we wanted it to. He ended up becoming really busy with work and just said that he’s too busy for a girl right now. Alright, that’s fine. He also said he doesn’t want each other to try forcing to make this relationship work and in the future whatever happens,happens. And I completely agreed with him.

I see him twice a week at the same spot and he always talks to me like how he would when we were dating and he always touches me like my leg and biting me an stuff just to mess around. He walked me out to my car yesterday and we ended up hooking up (just making out) and I didn’t want to and I wanted to stop so badly and tell him this isn’t what we should be doing we both agreed not to do this. It was just very awkward. So I texted him later and was like what was that and he said Idk. And I was just texting him like you can’t keep doing this and he’s like I like you but I don’t want a relationship. Okkkkkkk so if u like me and don’t want a relationship why would you do that. He said he cares but sometimes his actions take over. Alright sooooooo what do I do. We still have light feelings for each other and I don’t want to let him go. Hes a great guy.

What do you think, ladies? This one at first glance is actually a bit of a no brainer. I know the reader in question doesn’t necessarily agree, because she’s in the middle of it. We’ve all been in that middle, trying to figure out why he’s saying one thing and doing another. But the truth is, he’s actually being a lot clearer than our dear reader wants to admit.

We’ve all been there.

But when it comes to relationship advice for women that are dealing with Mixed Signals Guy, my advice is always, agree with him, thank him, and move on your merry way. See, this is where that handy little tip of, you teach people how to treat you goes a very long way. Right now our reader is teaching him that it’s okay to keep walking all over her like this, when the truth is, it isn’t. How do we know this? Because she has accepted the yo-yoing back and forth and not given him the boundaries she needs to feel secure in this relationship.

I’m going to translate some of his mixed signals for you.

“I like you, but I don’t want a relationship.”

What he’s saying is, I like you, and I don’t really have anyone else that I like more in my life right now, so I want whatever I can get from you right now….without a commitment.

“I care, I definitely do, but sometimes my actions take over and there’s nothing I can do about it.”

Dear reader, is he 4? Because 4 year olds don’t have the developed neocortexes that adults have, and they do act impulsively and honestly can’t help it. If you are dating a 4 year old, stop. If you aren’t, tell him to grow up. He is a grown man with a mind of his own and absolutely can stop what he is doing if he knows it is going to hurt you. Which he does know, or he wouldn’t be giving you these lame excuses.

You say, “We still have light feelings for each other and I don’t want to let him go.”

Here is my translation of your statement, dearest reader. “I really like him, and don’t really know where he stands with me, and I am afraid that if I don’t let him go and pursue other options that I won’t find any other options and I will have let go the one guy that at least liked me a little.”

Ring true for you? We’ve all said that, felt that, experienced that. But the truth of the matter is, when you translate your own fears, you see the cold hard truth. You are settling with this guy.

The truth is, you deserve a guy that is screaming from the mountains, I’m crazy about her! I can’t get enough of her!! I want to be with her and only her!

What you DON’T deserve, is being fully invested in something when the guy is responding with, “I love making out with her! I love hooking up with her! I am crazy about the fact that I finally met someone who is letting me have my cake and eat it too!”

You also mention that he’s a great guy. While I don’t know him personally, I am going to disagree with you on this one based on the information you have provided. Great guys do not leave their girlfriends hanging for three months after they had surgery. If he did that to you once, he will do that to you again. Do you really want to wait for that to happen when you are engaged or married?

Does this situation make more sense to you?

The next time he slips up and tries to lose control of his actions, nip him in the bud. If you truly want to get your boyfriend back and in a loving and much more committed way, you need to show him and explain to him that the only way to do that is to make you his own.

The next time this happens, and you are texting him telling him this is unfair, wait for his response. It will look exactly like the first one. “I am happy with no commitment, and if you want to keep making out with me, you have to be happy with that too.”

Your response needs to sound like, “Okay great, thanks for spelling things out for me. Been great hanging with you but truthfully, I’m looking for something more. I do think you’re great, a great kisser even, but I need more. I know you care about me and want me to be happy, so I am going to go look for my happy. Let me know if a relationship is ever something you’re into, and if I’m free, I will let you know. You know how it is, in the future, whatever happens, happens, right? Until then, best of luck.”

I guarantee you his eyes will pop open very wide as soon as he sees that message.

What do you think dear readers? Did I miss something? This is one of those situations where you need to remember that YOU, not HE, is in control of your relationship and romantic affairs. So take your power back, and teach him how to treat you. Good luck, and please do keep us posted!!

Relationship Ninja Techniques to Make Him Miss You

Okay, so the worst has happened. 

At least it feels like the worst and the end of the world to you.  Instead of planning your winter vacation with the love of your life, you are trying to figure out how to get your boyfriend back.  It’s okay, we’ve all been there.  We’ve all wondered at one point or another how to make him miss you after he’s given the big heave-ho to you. 

Right now, you aren’t thinking straight.

You think you are, but you aren’t.  All you can think about right now is how sad you are, and how being back together with him is the only thing that will change that. How close am I on how you are feeling? 

We’ve all been there. 

Because you aren’t thinking clearly, we are going to clear up that muddled hotbed of emotions you are going through to help you and so that you can get your boyfriend back.  But how?  

It’s time for Relationship Ninja

Let’s face it. You’re in pretty dire straights if you are online trying to find ways to make him miss you.  Or trying to make your ex boyfriend miss you without looking like the needy clingy girl. 

Again, that’s okay.  We’ve ALL been there. 

But the sad truth is that trying to reason or convince him into doing so is going to work against you.  So what you need to do is step away from all matters that seem logical and rational to you, and follow these Relationship Ninja techniques that will make him miss you. 

If you want to get your boyfriend back, what you have to do is tap into that part of the mind that loves you, this will help make him miss you… and when he misses you, he will come back. 

Here are two very powerful Relationship Ninja techniques that will get his motors running again.

1.  Send him a thank you note… for breaking up with you. 

What, Michelle??? Yes. If things weren’t clear and you never found that infamous “closure” that all breakup-ees seek, this will be a cinch.  If you both are confused about “what happened” or “who broke up with who”, make it official, and break up with him. 

Or, if things are a little more crystal clear than you would like, do the opposite of what you want to do, and send him a thank you note for breaking up with you. Thank him for what he taught you to learn and grow and be a better and bigger person, and wish him all the best.  Yes, it sounds final, but it will make him miss you. 

Why?  For starters, if you do it with the right intent, you are now officially the bigger person, and have some serious points on your side.  This is a good position to be in, because the other side of this is that he will take it as rejection, and rejection is a very powerful tool when it comes to breakups. Ask any man OR womam. It makes the other party go running back in the opposite direction they started in, hopefully, right back into your arms.

You know this because of how you reacted when he dumped you.  You didn’t want to be rejected. You wanted validation that you were still lovable.  Do the same thing to him, but be the bigger person about it, as nice as possible, and….if nothing else, it will get him thinking.  What he will be thinking about is how to reverse this rejection in his favour so that he doesn’t feel so rejected any more.  Chances are, you’ll be the first call. “Hey, I just got your note, that was nice, so…what was that about? And….how are you?”   Send that note. Wait for the call.

2.  Have some fund and start dating again. 

Yes, of course this makes it seem counterproductive to YOU, you don’t want another boyfriend, you want to get your boyfriend back. RELAX. This is a Ninja technique. 

Where you once started with rejection in step one, now you are going to use the powerful tool of jealousy.  You’re starting to get it now? 

 What you want to accomplish with this step is very simple.  You want to make the point that you are moving on with your life. You are sending the message that you don’t need him, that you don’t even need to win him back, because you are fabulous, and now it’s time for the rest of the world to see that.

Do you see the true power of Relationship Ninja?  It’s about you. 

Instead of trying to figure out how to make him love me, try and figure out how to love you.  You don’t know how this is going to work out, but you do know one thing, you need to move on with something at some point.  A true Ninja has not only stealth in their favour, but true intentions. 

Follow these Ninja techniques with the truest of intentions, and you’ve got a very good shot at making him rethink a few things.

Missing You Out of Town

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Who’s He Thinking of Now?

There is a saying that absence makes the heart grow fonder, and in most cases this is true.  But whenever a little distance is put between a couple, be that geographic distance or emotional distance, many women tend to think that this distance is the beginning of the end.

When it comes to geographic distance such as long distance relationships or business trips however, attracting a man or seducing a man is easier than you think.  A lot of women get very concerned when their squeeze is away, but it is these times where you can truly capitalize on what you have with him to make him miss you, and make him love you even more.  Here’s how.

Consider the case of Jenny, whose man was a frequent traveler due to business and their dates were anything but regular.  Just when she thought he was calling her to setup another date, instead he was calling to cancel because he was getting sent away again.  Ugh.

Potential freak out moment in the making. 

But did Jenny freak out? No, she didn’t.

She helped him pack, made a lunch for him for the plane, and made sure he got one last kiss he wouldn’t ever forget.

The result?

He called her every night after his meetings to let her know how exciting things went, and to tell her he had in fact found the sexy little surprise she tucked in his suitcase when he wasn’t looking.  He even had a present delivered to her door while he was away, just to let her know he was thinking of her.

Awwwww.  Lucky girl, right?

That girl could be you too, if you want to know how to make him miss you or are wondering, “how do I make him love me,” then you just need to get your game on, even when he’s going out of town.  Jenny’s guy was so stoked about how she responded to his trip that he fell in love with her — from a different city!

The key to making him miss you and loving you more while he’s away involves stoking the fires of romance without putting any pressure on.  When you attach expectations to the little things you do for him, you won’t make him miss you, you will make him feel pressured and guilty into doing something in return.  Doing something nice for men just to make their lives easier is so welcomed and appreciated by somebody that already cares about you that you will see just how easy it is to make him miss you.

In the meantime, while he is out of town, keep yourself busy! 

Yes, of course this may be the oldest advice in the books, but the reason it keeps getting repeated is because it works!  Keep yourself busy, and don’t be afraid to let him know before he leaves just HOW busy you will be.  Men like to know that their women don’t depend on them for every little facet of their happiness. So, if he knows you have other things to do (and people to be with) and think about while he is gone, he will feel a little more secure in the relationship himself because you don’t depend on him to fulfill you.

One advantage for women when their man goes away is that they have some time to do the things they don’t have time to when they are doting on their man.  They get to go out with their girlfriends, shop for as long as they want, and eat ice cream right out of the tub without worrying about getting “the look.”  When you have the opportunity to do all of these things, it’s impossible to obsess about missing him, because you’re living your fabulous life, which will only get more fabulous when he comes home.

The trick to truly make him miss you when he’s away is to focus on you (and avoid the freakout).

Just because he’s going away doesn’t mean he’s leaving you forever. Keep doing all of the things you do that make you the fabulous girlfriend and woman that you are, and you will not only make him miss you, but make him love you more.

They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder… fonder, not fungus. 😉

What seems to work best in these situations is to use the language of desire.

How I Built a Stronger Relationship with Him

You can possibly read many romantic stories and real testimonials about women how successfully got their ex boyfriend back and managed to stay together. But the key here is: building a long term relationship by solving previous problems and making the commitment stronger. Let me tell you about the method I discovered on how to make him love me, and stay with me. You will also get a few great tips on how to seduce your ex-boyfriend, even if right now he would never think about getting back together again.

I broke up with my boyfriend because he wanted more freedom and I wanted him to spend more time with me. After a week I felt miserable and started thinking about ways of how to make him love me again. As I knew that at the time his freedom and independence was more important for him than me, I had to work on a plan to change this. I wanted him to suffer and read a lot about how to seduce your ex-boyfriend on the Internet. I even bought some books to achieve my goal. And I succeeded. Here is how…

I made it clear for him that I wasn’t angry at him at all. I told him that I would be available for him as a friend any time, and I went on to live my life. We met a couple of times (only bumped into each other) and I looked very happy. I always made sure that I looked my best when there was a chance to meet him. I also made the impression that I was now truly enjoying my life. Obviously, this was not true.

I wanted him back but he had no idea.

After seeing me a few times, he started to ask more questions. He had no idea that I was thinking about how to make him love me. He started to become interested in me again, because I wasn’t heartbroken and I had moved on.

Then I started mentioning a few things just casually about things we did together, like: “You remember the hotel we went to on our anniversary? They just renovated it. It looks stunning.” Then we started talking about the times we had together, and I left. I told him I had someplace to be and was running late. This is how to seduce your ex boyfriend: never say anything directly, just mention things and let him remember.

Tease him a bit and then move on.

He may even say, “I finally realize what I lost” or “I really miss you.” But at this point you should contain yourself, and go away. Become the hunted, not the hunter.

I knew that I chose the right method of how to make him love me, and carried on. But I never said anything about getting back together at all. If you want to know the best way how to seduce your ex-boyfriend, you need to know that the less you show of your emotions and real intentions, the more chance you will have.

Get him interested but stay mysterious.

After a while he invited me to a party. As I was single, and kept on thinking about how to make him love me, I knew that this was my time. I arranged a complete makeover and turned up at the party. I went in so confident.

He never knew what hit him.

I’m here to tell you, this is a proven way to seduce your ex boyfriend.

How to Make Him Miss You and Get Your Love Back

There are many women struggling alone and are looking for ways to get their ex boyfriend back. Most women go through a break up more than once in a lifetime, but if you feel that this was the real love you found, it is hard to let it go.

Fortunately, clever women and psychologists have developed some proven methods to get him back, and all you have to do is to make him miss you. There are different techniques used, and which one you use will depend on how the relationship ended, too. If you were arguing a lot and broke up with hard feelings, you will not have much chance to win him back the normal way.

You can’t just turn back and say: “I withdraw what I just said.”

However, you can still find great ways to make him miss you and come back on his own, if you are setting up a strategy. Women are great at this, but you will have to make sure he does not see through you. If he notices that you want to win him back, he is going to try and escape. Therefore you should always behave naturally, and never show your real intentions. Don’t tell anyone about your plans, especially not their friends.

And most importantly: don’t ask him out.

If you really want to make him miss you, you will have to change some things. If you were the one who ended the relationship but changed your mind, he is going to be too proud to let you come back. You hurt his feelings, and you will have to work hard to win him back, and give them courage to make the first step. But you will be able to offer him to be friends shortly after the break up, and voila, you already have a plan in place. All you have to remember, if you really want to make him miss you, is to leave him enough space and don’t be around all the time. Otherwise he would think that you can’t live without him, and this is when men can get really self-conscious.

If you separated with hard feelings, you should make him forget about the scene. If you said something you have regretted, in order to win him back, you need to apologize first. Not as a partner, but as a friend. And offer your friendship.

If he ended the relationship, you can still change his mind and get him back. You just need to make him realize what he is missing. You can do that by changing your style, buying new clothes, having a complete makeover or getting new hobbies, friends. Anything he hasn’t known about you so far will make him think about you. And the better picture you can paint about the new, single you, the more you can make him miss you. And once he does, he will try and get back together.

You should make him interested in you again, by making him remember about the good times you spent together. This is how you can make him miss you and want to come back.

But it is important that you let him make the decision, and will not call him or beg him to come back. It will just have an adverse effect and you will never get him back.

The Quickest Way I Know To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

If you have been burned by a relationship and either want to prove that you were not the bad one, or want your ex back, you need to know that there are many ways to make your ex boyfriend miss you. Many women have been using the very same techniques to turn around the relationship and get back together successfully.

When you think that you are no longer needed and you can’t take care of your man any more, it is a horrible feeling.

You can still make your ex want you by changing your behavior and working on a successful plan.

Let’s face it: there is nothing harder than making your ex want to see you or arrange meeting by accident. Unfortunately, this is not something you can do without help. I don’t mean that you would need to spy on him if you want to make your ex boyfriend miss you, but if you suggested to meet he would possibly refuse. Men are very proud and wouldn’t come back on their own, no matter how much they suffer. That is why you have to try and help him.

The best way to make your ex want you is to try and get him to notice you in a new light.

If you stay the same, he might not be interested in you, as he thinks he knows you inside out. But if you are getting a makeover, start hanging out with different people, take on a new hobby, start a new sport or just behave differently, you can make your ex boyfriend miss you.

You might be thinking that he will forget about you, right after breaking up. Although men don’t usually like showing their feelings and can try and stay strong, they will still miss you. As they are practical creatures, they will remember the things you did for them first. So you can work on reminding him about these things –obviously indirectly- to make your ex boyfriend miss you.

You should be trying to look indifferent and happy; this is the best way to make your ex want you.

He might see how content and satisfied you are and he will be jealous of the people you spend time with.

And now you are on the way to get him back. When he sees your new single life, he will want to be a part of it, too. If he sees you having fun and going out with your friends, he will instantly remember the times you spent together. If you don’t even mention your relationship, you will be able to make your ex want you.

Men usually want what they can’t have.

This is strange but true. They are ALL hunters at heart. (If you understand that, you are more than 1/2 way to being in control of your relationship.)

You still should not flirt with every guy, and certainly not start a new serious relationship. Instead you need to look happy on your own and show no need for getting back together.  Stay in touch but a bit too busy to spend time worrying about him. Soon, he’ll be back trying to get your attention again.

While many girls think the best way to make your ex boyfriend miss you is to beg him every day, the opposite of this is the truth. If you are disappearing for a while and become mysterious, he will suddenly become interested in you again. Then you turn up, with new friends, looking great, and you seem to be happy.

He will immediately think that something is not right, and he shouldn’t have let you go.

This is the best way to make your ex want you.

When your relationship is on the skids, the worst thing that you can do is to do nothing.
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The Worst Piece of Relationship Advice for Women Ever

bad relationship adviceThere is an enormous amount of information available all over the Internet on seducing a man. Unfortunately, most of the articles are written by people who have never been successful in dating and keeping a guy.

That is why you should not listen to just any advice when you want to get your boyfriend back. There are many ways a woman can behave, and some tips you will read will only make you look ridiculous and lessen your chances of seducing a man.

The worst advice I have ever heard in my life was the following: “Write a poem to him”

I am going to explain you why this tip is never going to work. Initially, I am just going to tell you that the real secret to get your boyfriend back is to not to look needy; not even bothered. If you are writing a poem, you are submitting yourself and are admitting that you are weak without him.

Here are the five reasons why you should never listen to this advice

1. Writing a poem makes you look needy.

You will never be seducing a man, if you are showing how much you want him. Even if you got them for a short term, they would never respect you, and you would be treated as a slave. Men think that you would do everything they want just to keep them. If you want to get your boyfriend back, you should look happy and content, to make him miss you.

2. Most guys hate poetry (or would never admit if they did like it).

If you bought him the miniature model of his favourite car, he would possibly be more interested. You will even reduce your future opportunities to get your boyfriend back, if you do this. Men get embarrassed and scared by emotions, so you should not even mention them until they do. This is the secret of seducing a man.

3. You will push him further away.

Even if he was thinking about returning to you, you just pushed him further away. He will start thinking about all the emotional commitment a relationship means for a guy, and start to run away. If you want to get your boyfriend back, you should try giving him more space instead of invading his personal and emotional life. It is just as if you were breaking down the door to get in. You will never be welcomed this way, and it is certainly not the way of seducing a man.

4. Men love a little mystery.

You will give out everything and will stop being mysterious. If you have your own secrets and don’t share every single piece of your life with him, he will think about you more. And this is how seducing a man works. But if he thinks that he can read you like a book, you will no longer be interesting for him, and you will get your boyfriend back.

5. HE should be doing the writing.

You should have made him write a poem for you, not the other way. Men are hunters and women like being hunted down. This has been like that for thousands of years. Men like being in control and making their own decisions. The only way of seducing a man is to make him want what you want. You should not pressure him in any way, or he will never come back to you.

Some Quick Ways to Make Him Miss You

In case you have just broken up with your boyfriend, you might be thinking about attracting a man who is no longer interested in you. Even if they have regretted the separation, you need to know that they will not make the first step. Men are too proud to do that, and you need to make him miss you so badly that he will overcome his pride. In most cases this can be a hard work and can take long months. But if you are using the proven to work techniques below of attracting a man, you will be able to get your ex boyfriend back fast.

Do not look heartbroken
The most common mistake women make when they want to succeed attracting a man is to look miserable and sad. You can’t expect them to feel sorry for you, especially if you gave them a reason to break up. You need to keep your dignity all the time, have fun, go out and don’t show any sign of being devastated; this is the best way to make him miss you. If he sees that you get along all right without him, and he is missing the things you did together (deep in his heart he will confess himself), that you will look more valuable in his eyes.

Make changes
You can change your wardrobe; have a new hairstyle, something he will notice immediately. But don’t look as if you did it for attracting a man; him or anyone else. Look as if you felt better inside than any other time, and you are not missing anything of your life. You can take on a new hobby, sport, lose weight, but not because of him, Just look like someone who is having loads of fun alone.

Become mysterious
You can make him miss you by having your own secrets. You can even disappear for a while, and turn up totally changed. The secret of attracting a man is to remain mysterious, and be impossible to see through. That is what men like about women, and you should always keep your secrets, to remain interesting. Attracting a man is all about to avoid being boring.

Make new friends
There is no harm making new friends to make him miss you. You have to ensure that he will not see you flirting with other people, as he will think you are just showing off. The best way of attracting a man is to look happy and content. He will be jealous of your friends, and immediately want to spend more time with you. If you look miserable, nobody, not even him, will want to be with you. To make him miss you, you will have to make an impression that he can be replaced by other people. This will hurt his pride and make him miss you.

Do not call him
The number one mistake girls make after breaking up with their boyfriend is starting calling them. You should look as if you have accepted the separation, and can live your life perfectly fine alone. You should avoid calling him if you want to make him miss you. You can even change your daily schedule to try and avoid him. The less he sees you the more he will miss you or think about you.