How to Get Him Back When Your Man Has a Mental Health Diagnosis

Okay, I already know what most of you are thinking from the title of today’s post. Many of you with exes you are trying to get back, or even those you never want to see again, are certain beyond a shadow of a doubt that if he hasn’t come crawling back to you by now he must be a flat out crazy person.

What woman hasn’t thought that? Men do too, ever hear the term “psycho chick”?

I feel your pain, I too have had my share of men in my life who I have referred to as sociopathic, schizophrenic, or even bipolar, because they acted like two different people at multiple different times. It’s EASY to think someone is certifiably crazy when they say they love you one minute, but are out posting profiles to pick up other women the next. Truthfully, there’s nothing crazy in those kinds of behaviors, it just FEELS that way at the time. When something doesn’t make sense to us, we find it a little insane in our world. In fact, anything that veers from what you know to be normal seems crazy. There’s nothing wrong with a few incorrectly placed diagnoses during a heated breakup moment, we’ve all done it. I urge you to try and not do that toooo often, otherwise it won’t be the man that looks like the crazy person. Get it out of your system and move on girl, if he is acting bipolar you certainly don’t need that in your life.

But that’s not what I’m talking about today. What I am going to talk about today is the pain that comes with dating, being engaged to, or even being married to someone that has been given a certified diagnosis of a mental health issue.

Why would you want to talk about that, you say? Hardly anyone ever has to deal with THAT, you say?
Wrong. The truth is, mental health issues are on the rise, and you would be very surprised to learn just how much so. It is estimated that one in five people suffer from one of these hidden illnesses, depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, and the list is actually quite long. That means a lot of the people you know are suffering from these issues! That ALSO means, your chances of dating someone with a mental health problem is one in five. That’s right, scary number right?

Not really. The scariest thing about mental health issues is the unknown. When you don’t know what you are dealing with, you don’t know how to deal with it. It’s scary!

When you love someone that is dealing with this, it’s even harder. It’s more difficult, more scary, and more frustrating than the average relationship. If you are a woman that loves a man with a mental illness, then your chances of being in the position of having to figure out how to get him back increase as well, because their history of stable relationships is slim to none. Sound even scarier?

It doesn’t have to. We have a question from a reader on this very topic, and I am posting it today because I know there are millions of other women out there just like her that are confused, scared, and frustrated that the man they love is too sick to ever love them again.

Our friend Ashleigh has written in about her man who has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. Let’s have a look at the tough ride she has been on and see what we can do to help her out.

Me and my boyfriend have been in an on again off again relationship for about 3 years now. We’ve been through so much together, but he has a bad temper, bipolar and he’s slow so its very hard to deal with someone like that. He always thinks that I do him wrong and that I’m always against him, but that’s not the case! We argue all the time over little stuff. I try to talk to him down and calm him down before he starts getting upset, but instead he hangs up and get mad and doesn’t answer or return my calls.

He always does this especially when he know he’s wrong. His family really can’t put up with him because he talks down on everybody. Every time he messes up I always take him back, nobody will ever put up with his behavior except me. When we’re in public he acts like a little kid he’s(24). I do all I can for this man, and it seems like he doesn’t appreciate the things I do for him. Either he’s too dumb to realize or he just doesn’t know it yet.

Every time we argue we say mean things to each other but then I realize I was wrong and try to call him back, but he doesn’t answer. And when he does, he says I’m doing him wrong. So he went to stay with this girl, she kicked him out, called the police on him, and took all his money and left him lying there on the street. I fed him, took him back, washed his clothes, and since he had no where to stay I let him sneak in my parents house which I got into a lot of trouble for.

I brought him money and got him out of jail twice. He got drunk somewhere, passed out, I rushed to the hospital to see him twice nobody eles was there for him. After all that, I helped him get a side job. Now he’s saying to me that work is more important and that he doesn’t want to talk to me and that he doesn’t have time for me anymore. So he called the phone company and had them to turn my phone off.

He doesn’t realize that if it wasn’t for me he wouldn’t be where he’s at today. He needs to open his eyes and realize the things I do for him. When I call him, he ignores my phone call and tells me that I’m using him and taking advantage of him which is not true. Also, he tells me that he has a future with this girl that they are in love and all that stuff. Please help me give me some advice tell me what should I do.

Okay, well, this one is less tricky than it looks. I’ve highlighted some of the most important things in this letter. Before we break it down, let me just say “Ashleigh” that I am sorry you are going through this. It is very difficult to be with someone struggling with a seesaw of mental things going on inside. Even so, that doesn’t make your relationship any less normal than any of the rest of ours. What I am trying to say by that is, your prescription will be the same as everybody else’s which will make this process so much easier for you.

It is important to never forget there are two people in every relationship. That means, both parties need to take responsibility. It is not ONLY up to him to fix this, it is also up to you, if you want to really know how to get your ex boyfriend back, the RIGHT way.

You have a three year thing happening now, which is a good thing in the sense that you have a history to work with. Unfortunately it does not sound like a lot of that history has been good. You have taught him how to treat you by putting up with a lot of this, given the nature of his mental health. This is normal. When we have someone in our life that is mentally ill, we tend to give them a little more slack than we would the average person.

There’s nothing wrong with that. But this cycle becomes wrong when that’s all you do! If you are constantly giving, he is constantly going to be taking, and you wind up with all of the resentment you have here. What is he going to do? When you get bitter and resentful for not wanting to give anymore, he is going to move on and find someone that won’t be so bitter. Like the first girl who ended up calling the police on him when he took from her, and like this second girl who he claims he is in love with.

Given the history of relationships with most mentally ill people, I am going to put money on the fact that he won’t be with this new one any longer than he was with the last. It’s just the sorry cycle that he has to deal with unfortunately because of his mental health problems. What I mean by that is, he doesn’t know any better. And he won’t unless someone teaches him otherwise. And the woman that does, is going to be the one that keeps him.

That can be YOU, Ashleigh!

How are you going to do this? The same way every other woman here is trying to figure out how to get her boyfriend back. No contact zone, followed by some honest pure discussion. What I suggest to you is that you break up with him before you enter the No Contact Zone.

WHAT? Break up with someone you are trying to get back?

YES.

By doing so, you will teach him that you won’t be the giver 100% anymore. You teach him that you deserve better, which you do, and that if he wants you back, it will be on terms you can both agree with. You don’t need to be mean about it. All you need to do is write him a note, a text, or leave him a voicemail that sounds something like this:

“Hi honey, so glad to hear things are going well with you! You know how much I care about you and how much you mean to me. I’m so sorry that after all we have been through we really didn’t get the traction in our relationship that we both wanted, no matter how hard we tried. I hope after all this time we can be friends, because I want you to know that your well being and health means so much to me, and that I would do anything to help you. I only want your happiness because that’s how much I care for you. I’m sorry it worked out this way, maybe one day there will be hope for us after we have grown and healed. Thank you for everything that you have been in my life. If you ever need me, give me a call. Until then, I wish you all the best! Love, Ashleigh.”

When he sees or hears that, he will realize who the real woman in his life is. But once you do that, you HAVE to cut the ties in a NO CONTACT ZONE. He won’t call you or write you back right away, anyway. He will use some time to digest this, and try and process it. If he is with someone else, there is a chance that this letter or voicemail will begin to highlight to him what this other person is NOT. He will either very seriously consider coming back to you, or at the very least, begin initiating contact again.

For 30 days, you are not to answer him. You are to live your life and remind yourself how happy you are without this stress. Then, when you hear from him, you ask him to meet you for a coffee or a lunch and…take it from there.

How do I know this works? Well, I know it has worked for me, and I know it has worked for other ladies that have sought my same advice on this very topic. At this point, showing him you are a woman worth appreciating by letting him go for 30 days is a good move, because you have absolutely NOTHING to lose at this point. And, it shows him that you DO appreciate him as well!

Good luck, and drop us a note and let us know what happened!

What do you think readers? Have I missed anything? Pop your thoughts in the comments box if you have any other thoughts on how to get your boyfriend back!

How Do I Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back After a Hookup?

Thanks again to all of you that are writing in!  I love that you want my insight on how to make your relationships better! A lot of questions that come in area long the same lines, and I see a lot of questions covering that grey area of hookups, Friends With Benefits, those types of scenarios.  That is what we are going to talk about today.

A Reader Asks:  How do I get my ex boyfriend back after a hookup?

Before I address the reader’s question, many of you may already know where I stand on this issue.  Remember, my goal is to answer your questions on how to get my ex-boyfriend back, and how to make him more committed than ever before.  That is the key to a good and successful relationship.  Essentially, even in this day and age of casual sex, no strings attached, hookups, and friends with benefits, that’s what everybody wants.

When people go to these casual situations, what they are really doing is settling for what they can get right now, UNTIL a relationship develops.  But it is a very tricky line to cross between the casual and the committed, especially if sex is in the picture.  I do like things a little old school, you will hear me say that time and again. Why?  Because it works.  So as we go into Confuzzled’s question, remember one of my hard and fast rules to get your boyfriend back, no sex until monogamy has been addressed.  Here is what Confuzzled asked:

So I a few days ago my ex texted me basically saying he didnt know what he was thinking breaking up with me and asked if I would give him another chance but said he didnt want one.

As the convo went on we basically made plans to hangout thursday and just cuddle or w/e but he really wanted to hook up He didn’t talk to me at all the next day but then the next night after that he texted me saying “I can’t, I can’t talk to you. All I’m going to do is lead you on and hurt you. All I do is hurt people.” So he was in a really bad move but then we talked about it and got flirting and it sort of lead to us making plans to hook up and I even sent him a few pictures. But the next night (last night) he texted me saying hey I’m sorry I didnt text you today and we had a super short convo and all the sudden he said he doesn’t want to hook up, well he does, but he wont.

I asked why and he said he knows its fucked up but his friend texted him asking him to hook up that day and he said no, cause he didn’t like her for more than a friend. He also realized that “he hates hooking up with people he isn’t emotionally attracted to.” But he totally stopped texting me and I was heartbroken. He ignored me all day today even though we were supposed to hang. At this point I feel like i have a hole in my heart thats only filled when he’s talking to me weather we’re fighting, hookingup, or just having a normal convo, but I really need to be around/talking to him all the time.

When I do talk to him, I dont feel much but I feel really comfortable and whole. I don’t know what he means, or what I should do?

Sincerely, Confuzzled

For starters, congratulations Confuzzled on wanting to put an end to these mixed signals.  You are right to want what you want, and you are entitled to a committed relationship if that is what you want.

Now having said everything I said in my introduction to this email, what do you think my response is going to be?  You got it.

Stop having sex with him. 

Once again, I do not know how long you were together, or what the details of your breakup were, but you have given me enough information to tell me that the sex and the hookups are what is causing all of these mixed signals.  I will also say, congratulations to your man for figuring this out too!   He flat out told you, “I don’t want to hurt you.”

What does this tell me?  He DOES care about you.  He may be going through this period right now where he is engaging in casual sex to try and get over you, deal with his own pain, or anything along that lines.  We don’t know why he is doing that.  What we DO know is that even HE doesn’t like doing that.

To answer one of your questions, this is exactly why he stopped contacting you, and ignoring your texts.  Because he is afraid of hurting you even more.  Truth be told, it doesn’t sound like he is ready for an entirely committed thing yet.  It sounds like he needs to figure some stuff out.  But that’s a good thing.  Having a man in your life that knows he doesn’t want to hurt you is a good thing, even if you aren’t together right now.  It shows that he cares, and that is a foundation you can use.

So here is what you need to do Confuzzled if you want to get your exboyfriend back.  Stop having sex with him.  And let him know that but in the kind and gentle loving way that he knows you to have.  Thank him for being so honest with you, because that is a rare thing to have.  Tell him you are lucky to have someone in your life that is honest enough with you to know when it is time to take a break.  Then agree with him.  Agree that you both need a little bit of space right now, and take that break sticking tried and true to the No Contact Zone.

This is going to throw him off a bit, I warn you.  He cares about you and is used to hearing from you.  But you need to stick to this to meet your end goal, which is having him come back to you more committed than ever.  After the 30 day period in the No Contact Zone, contact him again, but ONLY IF he contacts you first.  Then tell him what you want.  He will do one of two things.  Accept your offer of a committed relationship with him, or not.

In any case, do not, and I repeat do NOT have sex with him UNLESS you and he have committed to a monogamous relationship.

Otherwise, 30 or 31 days from now you will be writing me with the exact same question and broken heart.

I don’t want that for you. 

I want you to contact me again in 30-60 days telling me how much in love with you he is all over again.

If you want to get your boyfriend back after a hookup, these are the steps you need to take.  You are strong and you can do it.  Touch base again and let us know how it goes!  How about you readers?  Got a similar question? Drop it in the inbox, or drop some comments here for Confuzzled and give her some tips on how to make this time so much easier for her. Good luck Confuzzled, we are all rooting for you!

5 Dirty Little Relationship Secrets

“Can we talk?”

Thump.   That’s the sound you heard and the wallop you felt when those three little words were uttered.  (And not the three you had been hoping for.)

Each on hitting you like a ton of bricks, and followed with something like, “I think we need a little space.” Or, “I think we are better off as friends.”

Or even worse, the deepest surgical cut of them all, “It’s not you, it’s me. Really.”

What’s a girl to do?  Fret not oh fabulous one, you have options.  1. Find a tub of ice cream with all the bells and whistles, this one merits the aisle right past all the non-fat brands, or 2. Consider this just a relationship bump, and try to make him miss you and get your boyfriend back, stat.  Easier said than done, you say?  Let’s see about that.

There are plenty of gurus and guides out there that may help you out with this one, but if you really want to make your ex-boyfriend miss you, chances are you have to act fast.

To make your ex want you again, you have to figure out what his hot buttons are, and remember that hope is not lost.  He DID love you at one point, and those feelings don’t just die after three little words are uttered.  Tap into those by using some dirty little secrets that will make him miss you, and you’ve definitely got a shot.

5 Dirty Little Secrets to Get Him Back

1.  Stop talking about the problems that lead you here.  Who wants to talk about problems? Not fun. Not sexy.  Sexy is what got him to you, and sexy is what will bring him back.  We repeat, problems aren’t sexy.  Seducing a man is easy, but if you want to know how to seduce your ex boyfriend, stop reminding him of all of the things that brought him to those three little words.

2.  Get your game on.  No matter how long you were with him, you have to go back to those first days and weeks of the relationship where you brought your A game.  The game that made him sweat over you when you weren’t around, the one where you did everything right because you didn’t want to screw it up. Every time you saw him you looked, smelled, and even felt as fabulous as ever.  Bring that back.  And don’t be afraid to show a little lace.

3.  Speaking of lace….Invest in some new lingerie.  No you don’t know yet if he’s ever going to see it, but wearing it will make you feel great.  It will make you feel as beautiful as you are.  You will walk taller and straighter because you look and feel sexy as all get up.  When you feel sexy, it shows, and if you can strut past him with some new fancy things on, well, he’s certainly going to wonder why.  He may even ask “what’s with you?” So you tell him, “just bought some new lingerie for myself and I feel great, that’s all, thanks!”

4. Never. Stop. Smiling.  Yep, this is a toughie if you are mending a broken heart, but this is one of those times you need to fake it till you make it.  Those are the only three little words that you need to focus on right now.  Why?  Numerous studies have shown that people that smile are perceived as more attractive and more successful in life overall.  People want to be around people that are happy.  People want to be around people that are smiling more than they are not.  They are thought of as fun, and all around positive people.  Men are very attracted to positive, fun girls.  If you want to get your boyfriend back, you need to BE that girl!

5.  Now strut.  Those boots were made for walkin, weren’t they? None of the above tips will help you get your boyfriend back and they won’t make him miss you if he is unable to witness any of them. You need to figure out a way to make him notice you without clubbing him over the head with it (that reads, I am trying to get a guy back). Be subtle, be sexy, and make him see it all.

Are you ready, girl? OK, then start walkin’.

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Want to Get Him Back? Here’s How

If you are suddenly finding yourself in the position of being single, one thing that might be going through your mind over and over right now is how to get your boyfriend back.  There are few women that don’t wonder this very thing when a healthy relationship ends, and they want to fix it. 

And men, normally the gender in the business of fixing what is broken, seem less than interested at this point.  In fact, it may even feel like he prefers this “thing” you had to stay broken. 

Sound familiar? 

Then you’ve probably been trying ways to make him miss you that aren’t working.  You’ve probably been using old standbys that women for generations have used to get a guy back, and they are counterproductive. 

If you want to truly win him back, you have to change your gameplan. Here’s how.

Emotional Hot Buttons

They are called “emotional hot buttons” and we all have them, and emotional hot buttons on a man are very powerful things.  If you can find a way to control those buttons, or at least trigger them, you will be well on your way to get your boyfriend back. 

The first thing you need to do is stop doing what you are doing, because chances are you are using women’s techniques.  It seems rational to you, because you are a woman, but what will work on your girlfriends when you are sad about something just plain isn’t going to work on your man. 

Because he’s a man.  And men have different emotional hot buttons than we do.

Guy Buttons

To make your ex want you, you  have to tap into these emotional buttons that will change his mindset as well.  When he starts feeling anything differently from the anger, bitterness, or resentment that lead to the breakup, his mindset will begin to turn in your favor, and you have a better chance to win him back.

But you say, “men are supposed to be the logical creatures while we are the emotional ones in society.” 

That’s so true!  And knowing this will be an incredible tool to get your boyfriend back!  Use it.  The more logical a man is, the more predictable he becomes to you as well.  See how what may seem like a disadvantage to you could actually be an opportunity to make him miss you?

If you know that he’s logical, don’t use logic and reason to try and get him back.  And don’t tell him how much you miss him either. 

These are logical rational things that only SEEM logical, and will only drive him further away.  Use his logical and rational frame of mind instead to push his emotional hot buttons.  If you had a good relationship, then you know what those hot buttons are, you know what makes him feel all warm and fuzzy inside. 

Now you just have to use the sexiest version of you possible to trigger those warm and fuzzies again.

If you don’t want to drive him away, then do the opposite of what he is expecting and this will help trigger those warm and fuzzies.  He will be expecting you to beg for him back or at least tell him how much you want him back. 

What He Does’t Expect

What he won’t expect from you is a little distance, which is the most logical thing to do at this point.  He can’t push you away if you aren’t close, so put that distance in and add a dash of mystery.  Bob Grant relationship expert says “The more a man’s imagination works for you, the more he becomes curious.”

If you are wondering how to make your ex boyfriend miss you, you need to start tapping right into that imagination of his. Make him curious.  You won’t be able to do that if you are in his face begging for his love every chance you get. So, create some emotional distance and get his attention.

The Quickest Way I Know To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Miss You

If you have been burned by a relationship and either want to prove that you were not the bad one, or want your ex back, you need to know that there are many ways to make your ex boyfriend miss you. Many women have been using the very same techniques to turn around the relationship and get back together successfully.

When you think that you are no longer needed and you can’t take care of your man any more, it is a horrible feeling.

You can still make your ex want you by changing your behavior and working on a successful plan.

Let’s face it: there is nothing harder than making your ex want to see you or arrange meeting by accident. Unfortunately, this is not something you can do without help. I don’t mean that you would need to spy on him if you want to make your ex boyfriend miss you, but if you suggested to meet he would possibly refuse. Men are very proud and wouldn’t come back on their own, no matter how much they suffer. That is why you have to try and help him.

The best way to make your ex want you is to try and get him to notice you in a new light.

If you stay the same, he might not be interested in you, as he thinks he knows you inside out. But if you are getting a makeover, start hanging out with different people, take on a new hobby, start a new sport or just behave differently, you can make your ex boyfriend miss you.

You might be thinking that he will forget about you, right after breaking up. Although men don’t usually like showing their feelings and can try and stay strong, they will still miss you. As they are practical creatures, they will remember the things you did for them first. So you can work on reminding him about these things –obviously indirectly- to make your ex boyfriend miss you.

You should be trying to look indifferent and happy; this is the best way to make your ex want you.

He might see how content and satisfied you are and he will be jealous of the people you spend time with.

And now you are on the way to get him back. When he sees your new single life, he will want to be a part of it, too. If he sees you having fun and going out with your friends, he will instantly remember the times you spent together. If you don’t even mention your relationship, you will be able to make your ex want you.

Men usually want what they can’t have.

This is strange but true. They are ALL hunters at heart. (If you understand that, you are more than 1/2 way to being in control of your relationship.)

You still should not flirt with every guy, and certainly not start a new serious relationship. Instead you need to look happy on your own and show no need for getting back together.  Stay in touch but a bit too busy to spend time worrying about him. Soon, he’ll be back trying to get your attention again.

While many girls think the best way to make your ex boyfriend miss you is to beg him every day, the opposite of this is the truth. If you are disappearing for a while and become mysterious, he will suddenly become interested in you again. Then you turn up, with new friends, looking great, and you seem to be happy.

He will immediately think that something is not right, and he shouldn’t have let you go.

This is the best way to make your ex want you.

When your relationship is on the skids, the worst thing that you can do is to do nothing.
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The Secrets on How to Get Him Back

how to get him backIf you are in the middle of a breakup, it’s a good bet that you are feeling lost, heartbroken, and completely out of control.  Unfortunately for women when we feel like we’ve lost control of something, we have a tendency to do some crazy things.

Things we would never do when we aren’t consumed by a mountain of negative emotions like heartbreak and loss.  Some women cut their losses and move on, but most of us obsess and overanalyze methods and means to win him back or make him miss you so that he comes crawling back.  Depending on what “tips” you used though, this could be counterproductive. 

Let’s discover the real secrets on how to get him back without looking like the overobsessed crazy girl he was once in love with.

Secret 1 – Get Busy with Other Things

Absence DOES make the heart grow fonder, so use that.  If you feel you two belong together, there is a sliver of a chance he feels the same way.  He did have feelings for you at one point, and maybe even still does, but you won’t find that out by “accidentally” driving by his house 32 times a day. 

Making yourself absent is a very effective way to get a guy back, because it reminds them that they actually have something to miss.  This one is actually more common sense than a secret, but women that are trying desperately to regain control of a relationship gone awry have a tendency to forget how to use common sense, making this a very effective secret if you want to know how to make him miss you.

Secret 2 – Live Your Life

Up your social quotient (but not too much).  The step two to this secret is to make sure he sees it.  When you have access to tools such as Facebook, this makes it even easier.  But you can do this without Facebook if you work in the same building, live in the same neighborhood, or have similar friends that are likely to run into each other. 

Make sure you go on with your life as if nothing happened, so that he can see how much fun you are having without him.  That’s right buddy, you snooze you lose and now YOU’ve moved on.  That doesn’t mean you need to date the football team while you are hoping he’s pining away, because that will only drive him away, it just means you should have fun. 

This tells a man that you don’t need or depend on him for your happiness, and that’s very attractive.  And yes, secretly he will be a little jealous too but he will never tell you that.  If you want to get your boyfriend back, you have to start playing the social game. 

Secret 3 – Look Fabulous

Look as fabulous as possible at all times, no matter what.  Again, repeat step two in secret 2 and bada bing.  Make sure he sees it. 

He is OBVIOUSLY attracted to you, or he wouldn’t have been your boyfriend in the first place.  And that’s the funny thing about relationships.  Even when they end, we don’t suddenly start thinking the other person is an ugly horse.  If you want to make him miss you, find ways to remind him how gorgeous you are. 

Even if he’s still bitter or upset over the breakup himself, he may not feel seduced just by looking at you, but if he sees you where other men can see you too, this secret has a powerful effect. 

To win him back, one important emotion to trigger is just a hint of jealousy.  If he runs into you dressed to the nines, on your way to your fabulous life, he’s DEFINITELY going to wonder what is UP with that.  And it WILL make your ex boyfriend miss you, even if the thought never crossed his mind before hand.

To get your boyfriend back, you have to do all of the things that helped you snag him to begin with.

Be yourself, live your life, and look fabulous the whole time.  The ante he has on other men that will also see you doing so is that he once had feeling for you.  Those secrets will make him miss you and help you know how to get him back. 

Now what are you doing still reading this, time to get your game on, girl!

Some Quick Ways to Make Him Miss You

In case you have just broken up with your boyfriend, you might be thinking about attracting a man who is no longer interested in you. Even if they have regretted the separation, you need to know that they will not make the first step. Men are too proud to do that, and you need to make him miss you so badly that he will overcome his pride. In most cases this can be a hard work and can take long months. But if you are using the proven to work techniques below of attracting a man, you will be able to get your ex boyfriend back fast.

Do not look heartbroken
The most common mistake women make when they want to succeed attracting a man is to look miserable and sad. You can’t expect them to feel sorry for you, especially if you gave them a reason to break up. You need to keep your dignity all the time, have fun, go out and don’t show any sign of being devastated; this is the best way to make him miss you. If he sees that you get along all right without him, and he is missing the things you did together (deep in his heart he will confess himself), that you will look more valuable in his eyes.

Make changes
You can change your wardrobe; have a new hairstyle, something he will notice immediately. But don’t look as if you did it for attracting a man; him or anyone else. Look as if you felt better inside than any other time, and you are not missing anything of your life. You can take on a new hobby, sport, lose weight, but not because of him, Just look like someone who is having loads of fun alone.

Become mysterious
You can make him miss you by having your own secrets. You can even disappear for a while, and turn up totally changed. The secret of attracting a man is to remain mysterious, and be impossible to see through. That is what men like about women, and you should always keep your secrets, to remain interesting. Attracting a man is all about to avoid being boring.

Make new friends
There is no harm making new friends to make him miss you. You have to ensure that he will not see you flirting with other people, as he will think you are just showing off. The best way of attracting a man is to look happy and content. He will be jealous of your friends, and immediately want to spend more time with you. If you look miserable, nobody, not even him, will want to be with you. To make him miss you, you will have to make an impression that he can be replaced by other people. This will hurt his pride and make him miss you.

Do not call him
The number one mistake girls make after breaking up with their boyfriend is starting calling them. You should look as if you have accepted the separation, and can live your life perfectly fine alone. You should avoid calling him if you want to make him miss you. You can even change your daily schedule to try and avoid him. The less he sees you the more he will miss you or think about you.

How to Make Him Miss You In Just 7 Days

Ouch.  You’re single again.  At least for now, anyway.  If you’re reading this you are probably looking for ways to make him miss you so that you can lose the single status.  Or maybe you’re just too heartbroken to think clearly enough to set an action plan.  It hurts, oh boy does it hurt.

You’re probably even wondering what you can do to make this hurt sting a little less, or at least do something about it to shorten the timeframe.  How close are we?  If you want to get your boyfriend back, or make your ex want you again, you need a gameplan that goes beyond a wish and a prayer.

So snap out of it, and set one up.  Here’s how to make him miss you in just seven days.  Really? Yes, seven.  Stick to it, and watch the magic unfold.

Day 1 – Recovery

You are entitled to some wallow time, and you need it to fully recover from this, so use this day for that.  But not too much of it.  And do it privately.  You aren’t going to get a guy back with the mascara lines running from your face to your track pants.  Show some love to your other fave guys, Ben and Jerry, suck it up and have your day.  Rome wasn’t built in a day, so you aren’t going to win him back today, so use this day to get all the fugly out so you can move past it.

Day 2 – Gals Night

Nobody can mend a broken heart in one day either, so this day is for Girl’s Night.  Gather your besties and get gorgeous and spend some time with them.  You are feeling unlovable and unattractive right now, and your girls will remind you that you are dead wrong in that regard.  That’s why they are your friends.  Do NOT spend the night with them wallowing about him.  Use Girls Night to get your fabulous back.

Day 3 – Give Yourself the Treatment

Become eye candy.  Do something nice for yourself today that makes you feel and look great.  A spa treatment or a hair cut, maybe even some highlights. This day should be used for doing something that makes you feel beautiful.  Even the slightest change will make him give you a second look.  If you are trying to make him miss you, you need to make him see you in a different way, but not too different.

Day 4 – Get Noticed

Up the social ante, in a way that he can see it.  You look great, you’ve gotten the fuglies out of your system, you’ve had some fun and self esteem talks with the girls, now it’s time to start putting it in action.  Put some pics on your Facebook wall that shows you doing all of these things or find the real time equivalent to accomplish the same goal.  If you want to make your ex want you again, you have to remind him exactly what he’s missing, and you will make him miss you.

Day 5 – Relax, Don’t Do It

Warning – this is tough advice to follow. By now, his ears or his eyes are perking in your direction if you’ve played your cards right.  Now, he’s not going to want to seem overeager, so chances are he’s not going for big bold moves right now, but he is wondering what all this is about.  He may even be wondering how YOU got over HIM so easily.

You may hear from him, even if it is something as small as a Facebook comment, email, text, or phone call.  Even if you don’t hear from him, again, if you’ve played the cards right, and he’s witnessed the effects from days 2 through 4, he’s thinking about you, and you have started to make him miss you.  Your goal today is to simply rest in that satisfaction, emphasis on the word rest.  If he finds an excuse to touch base in some small way, do not acknowledge any of his contact in any way shape or form. Remember, you are RESTing in the satisfaction that you know how to make him miss you, and you are almost there.

Day 6 – Get in the Game

Go on a date or at least open up an online profile somewhere so you can start to remember what it feels like to be back in the game.  You had a boyfriend at one point so you know how to attract a man, now you just need to do it.  Whether that man is a new one you meet, or your ex boyfriend, this tactic will make your ex want you because you’ve already started to make him miss you and he won’t want anyone else to get in on his game.

Day 7

If you are still wondering how to get him back, your seventh day will be one where you truly start moving on with your life.  By now if you’ve performed these steps well, you are starting to feel better about everything.  Whether he misses you or not is almost irrelevant at this point.  Maybe you’ve even met someone new online already.

To make your ex boyfriend miss you on day 7, it won’t hurt to send him a text or email to wish him well.  You won’t care as much about whether or not he responds, because you will have started having fun again. That’s a powerful tool when you want to make him miss you, because when he sees you are not focused on him, it’s much easier to make him miss you.

Keep in Mind

The key to the Make Him Miss You 7 Day Boot Camp is to follow it and spend more time thinking of you and your goals, and less about him.

Remember that happiness is a process, not an ah-hah moment.  Spend time on the process, and you will remind him how awesome you are.

When your relationship is on the skids, the worst thing that you can do is to do nothing.
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